Relationship Help

[senian]

Hello, I am senian. I have a relationship problem. Actually it is not directly my problem but I am connected to it.So I need some urgent suggestions.I am 52 years old and a school teacher. I had a very lovely small family with my husband and only son.But my husband passed away in 2008.My son was doing very good private job and also taking care of his father's business.He got married.Everything was running smoothly. But God took him away as he met an car accident.It has been almost 2 years now. I told my daughter-in-law to remarry, her parents also forced her to remarry.But she refused. I assured her that her son I mean my grandchild who is 3 will get 80% of my property and remain 30% will I keep to myself and will be donated to any charity after my death.Even I was ready to make the will paper as soon as possible. But she refused all, she won't leave this house or me.She has taken the responsibility of our family business.Our society is very conservative, so many people rold many things when she take the business responsibility in her hand( it is a buusiness of vehicle parts, tires etc.) She is running the business very well. But she doesn't spend money at her own wish. She asks money from me when she needs.However, we thought her mind would change and she will get married. But nothing changed. Her parents lost all hope of her remarriage. I know she is young and I will not be there all life. So I tried to get a man for her, but no result. I even made my mind if she has a boyfriend I wouldn't mind.Our relation is like real mother abd daughter. I told her once if she had any boyfriend and she could bring him at home, I wouldn't mind.But she was very angry at that. Now I want suggestion how to make her agree to have a reltion again?

[DanZee]

Just leave her alone. She has made her decision, you should honor it. Stop trying to get her to remarry or she will leave you like she has left her family. She is honoring your son by staying single. She is taking care of you and your family. She has assumed the role of your son. She is running your business and is successful.

She does not need a man to do this. She is a modern woman. A man may ruin everything your family has built. Be thankful and be proud of her.

[senian]

Thanks! But she is so young! She has a long life ahead. In a society like ours it iss very difficult to live without a man. Moreover she has sexual needs. So I wanted her to remarry. But yes I should honor her decision.