beanpot Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Hello community, It's been a while since I last posted. I used this forum religiously during the initial 3-6 months of the breakup turmoil, but I have not returned to it since then. I am a 33 year old male to preface. I'm not sure if that will make any difference in the story below... It's been a little over 2 years now since the relationship that I was in, the one that I thought would be "the one", ended. I can, without exaggeration, say that I probably still think about her at least once a day. Sometimes more. Sometimes I will dream about her, and when I wake up that dreamy feeling will taint the rest of the morning, and often bleed into the afternoon. She continues to be an ever present thought in my mind. I've been in a new relationship since her for about a year now. I started dating again because I thought that perhaps this would be the best way to move past my ex. Perhaps I started too early, before I was ready? However, it's been just over a year now with my new girlfriend, but I still can't get over my old one. I don't know what to do. I don't know if this a natural part of the process, for it to take this long? We are always told that time heals all wounds. Certainly the acute, heart numbing pain has resolved. But now it's a dull, smoldering sadness during the times when I really start to reminisce. I'm incredibly worried that this will never fade away. My current girlfriend is wonderful. However, I do not feel the degree of love, longing, passion, intimacy, and connection that I did with my ex. This makes me very scared that I will never find the happiness that I am yearning for in a relationship. It makes me scared that I am wasting the time of my current girlfriend if I don't "get my act together". I would love to hear your thoughts. I've spent too much time ruminating on these feelings in my own mind. Very much appreciated everyone. Link to comment
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