MeeB Posted October 17, 2017 Share Posted October 17, 2017 Hi, This is my first post...so bare with me.. I was in an absolutely incredible relationship for about a year. I had genuinely come to the idea that she was the one. As the year progressed we supported each other well, each having issues to deal with and working on them together. She referred to me as her soulmate and that we were forever. I took this very seriously. After a particularly difficult incident that we both experienced, She became very withdrawn. Things became difficult and arguing ensued for about 6 weeks. During this time she left the city a couple of times. This led me to become needy and a little desperate, which led her to breaking up with me and saying that it had all become too much. I desperately tried to keep her friendship - this person was my best friend. I quickly realised (within a couple of days), that she was engaging in emotional communication with an old friend who she had had relations with before. I was very upset and mentioned this, she also went to stay with her where they slept together most of the week. Throughout the last 2 months since she left me, my behaviour has continued to be needy and I am actually quite disgusted in my behaviour. She has contacted me to advise me of good news she has received, she has allowed me to support her through a couple of turbulent incidents, she has resigned from work and chosen to leave the city, she has stated she would always be there for me and in the next breath threatened me with police contact...the last time I saw her she bought the new girl to my house to collect her last few belongings and I blew up saying it wasnt a good thing to do and stressed the hurt she had caused, and hoped one day she could reflect on her actions, along with wishing her luck and saying she can has the ability to do and be whatever she wants. She then blocked me from all communication and declared her new relationship to Facebook where we share a lot of mutual friends. She is extremely spur of the moment having over the last year applied for 3 different jobs, decided to start a course at the same uni as the new girlfriend and resigned from a job with nothing to go to. She has advised that I made her feel crazy (the last 6 weeks I stressed my worry for her several times), and has stated I make her feel unhealthy and that I terrify her. I have lost my best friend, I have struggled with my emotional behaviour, and I have also struggled with how push and pull she has been. I figure she will probably never contact me again, but I find it very difficult to understand how things went from the deepest of love to literally nothing and her moving on so quickly. Any insight would be massively appreciated. Link to comment
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