Jaydunno Posted October 16, 2017 Share Posted October 16, 2017 Maybe you hav read my previous thread. But Here it is: 7 years together, she has broken up multiple times. Been together since she was 16 and I was 17. We have gotten back together maybe because I always stay around and fight for us. but please read previous article. Anyways, we have been back since last breakup for more than a year. Alot of things have changed and they're all good changes and also, A lot of things have happened in her life. Graduated college, found a 9-5 job(good pay), saving for a new car, also saving to move out (with me). Technically, she is adulting ( I would say this might be another stage in her life) She lives with her parents, no responsibilities or bills and now things are changing for her. She seems to be overwhelmed, her job is stressing her out and the fact that now she works mon-fri and gets out to go to the gym with me and by the time she's done technically the day is over. I feel like that alone is already affecting her since she has never done that before. She has been acting weird for the past 2 weeks. And I knew something major was coming and I was right. She texted me and told me that she was not ready, that she feels like i give 100% and she doesn't. Also, she is not sure if she wants to move in with me because she wants independence. She feels like I am always there and I am always pushing her and helping her and she is always consulting me as oppose to her doing her own things. She is very confused because she said that everything has changed and some things have gotten boring between us. (which is somewhat true) I have been saving to move out, she works now so the only real time we have is the weekends. She was not sure if moving in was a great idea anymore because she is very scared that one day she will want to leave and we have our lives together. She does not handle pressure very well. She always jumps into conclusions which lead to irrational decisions like this one and she feels like she needs tim to figure out and think what she really wants. Once again I gave in and told her it's ok. (I guess is because I understand her) in a way that we been together so long and she's never had freedom and I mean in a way that she never had to make hard decisions alone without me being there. I told her I wont force her and I want her to be happy. She can have her time and to think hard about what she wants and to make sure she is doing this as a way to make sure she is 100% sure this time. She asked me for a break, she's confused and to just let her be for now. I left and she hugged me as we cried and we kissed multiple times and kept hugging. It was hard because she loves me but she's a confusing soul in so many ways that it hurts to see her that way. I want to be able to make her happy and reach that level of happiness but I don't think it's me anymore. She has so many internal issues which I embrace because noone is perfect and I love her. Before she would straight up break up with me but now she says that she needs time. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE! I saw her at the gym today btw(I ignored her) but she said hi and came up to me and hugged me and started telling me about her ty day at work. Link to comment
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