catsol Posted October 16, 2017 Share Posted October 16, 2017 So over the past year I've dropped a few friends after finally gaining the courage to end those toxic relationships. MY old friends all know my partner so it's been hard but i un-added the friends on all social media and i thought that was the end. Throughout this friend break up period, I noticed they'd leave for a while(friends), and then try to talk to me again at school and texting. I didn't really think much about the pattern. Notably, during this period,I took a break from social media and recently saw after checking back on Instagram that they (my partner) has my old friends on all on their accounts, interacting with the three people I'd been trying to get off my back, commenting as if I hadn't been struggling to get rid of these people. And yes, my partner is aware of me trying to rid myself of these people. Knowing these people, they (friends) were keeping in contact with my partner to stay in my life and it just made it easier for those people when my partner engaged in friendly conversation with them. I would talk to my partner about how I am feeling, however they had just brought up to me how they felt i was always upset with them for something, which is very true and it is something i've been working on (managing my feelings and maintaining a healthy balance between bottling up and venting 24/7). But it still bothers me because it seems like they are disregarding my extreme efforts not to talk to these people and not be around them. I don't know if they don't realize that it makes my part harder. Is it wrong for me to not wanting my partner to talk to any of those people? How would i Bring this up to my partner without making it seem like another thing i'm being upset with them for? Am I being too irrational and should i not bring it up at all? Feedback much appreciated Link to comment
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