luciamts Posted October 12, 2017 Share Posted October 12, 2017 I met my boyfriend about 10 months ago while traveling in Asia. He is from Europe and I am from the States. We hit it off immediately and began a sort of long-distance relationship. Then that was followed by visits back and forth to see each other. Prior to this I was living more than half of the year in Asia, and the rest in America. When I was back home I stayed with my family since I didn't want to have a full time apartment to worry about. I did miss living on my own, and so when my boyfriend offered for me to move into his flat I accepted. He even did a ton of work on his place to get it comfy for me to stay in, and that I would have a place to do my art work. The hard part is that his place is kind of remote, in a small village of 90 people, about 2 kilometers from a train station. I don't speak the language, and the weather is colder and wetter than I like. I have a bike here but it always seems to be gross outside and I rarely want to leave the house while he is at work. Now I'm starting to miss America, and the freedom I felt like I had. I am missing being busy, and seeing my family, and having plans with my friends. I miss being able to understand people in conversations. I miss the weather and the drives in my car. It seems dumb but I would give anything just to be able to run errands by myself!!! I've told him how I feel and he understands, but when I told him I wanted to spend some time home for the holidays (maybe 3 weeks) he seemed very sad. He said it was okay but I could tell that it hurts him that I don't love it here. To be honest, I've been pretty miserable since the transition (about one month ago) and I've taken a lot of my emotions out on him and I feel bad about it. My question is this: At what point do I realize if this is not for me? I know right now I am homesick and having a hard time transitioning and that perhaps with time I might feel better, but how long is that going to take? What if I'll never fully adjust to this different lifestyle? How do I differentiate between just having a hard time and the realization that maybe I didn't make the right choice by moving here?! I appreciate your advice! Link to comment
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