Andy29 Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Hello, I am a gay man. My bf broke up with me about a month ago. We had a very loving relationship but we used to fight a lot as we both have anger issues. We were both insecure and controlling. But we loved each other a lot without a doubt. We would make up after every argument. He is a very very sweet guy and would go above and beyond to do things for me. I was the same way to him. We have had a couple of big fights few days before the breakup. He broke up with me and put all the blame on me in anger. I know he didn’t mean it. It was over the phone. I drove up to his place to reconcile but he wouldn’t listen and we broke up. We were both crying a lot. Two days later he texted me to ask how i was doing. I thought maybe he wants to get back so i asked him again to patch up and ge refused saying he doesn’t feel capable of loving me. And said that we are both Type A personalities and are incompatible. I decided that I won’t contact him again. After a few days he kept texting me asking me general questions to which i would reply. After a few days, i went on a business trip to new york and oosted pictures with a friend. He got jealous and asked me if i moved on already because he has not. I told him its just a friend in the pictures. He asked me for dinner and i said i will have dinner with him when i get back. We planned for sunday. Two days before the dinner, he came and hugged me at a volleyball game (we both play volley at the same place but in different courts every friday) . When he hugged me, i gave a very cold reaction because i was surprised why is he hugging me. He was sweet but i was very cold with my responses. He went away and texted me saying “you didn’t seem very happy to see me” to which i replied “well i was surprised as I wasn’t expecting it”. That sunday, i knew he was mad and he canceled dinner because of my cold reaction at volleyball. I asked to meet for coffee and we met. We both cried and i told him that i wanted to be with him but I can’t be with him just as friends. I told him how depressed i was and also had suicidal thoughts when he left me. He burst out in tears thinking i was suicidal. We concluded that we will both take a week to think if we want to be together and meet on Saturday for dinner with our decisions. But in only two days, i was anxious and called him crying at my place. He came running thinking that i was suicidal but i had told him that i was not suicidal at all. He said that he can’t be with me because he thinks that we are incompatible. This was one month after the breakup. I told him that if he doesn’t want to be with me then i cant be friends with him. I really love him and we haven’t contacted each other since that day. I know he loves me a lot but is afraid that we can’t be together as we fight a lot. Do i have a chance to get him back? I really really love him! Link to comment
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