PipWizard Posted July 28, 2017 Share Posted July 28, 2017 Who would have said that becoming friends with someone nowadays is SO hard? I wish it were as simple as when we were kids. So, I have been trying to get closer to a guy I know from my gym because he seems cool and I am trying to form a new group of friends as my high school friends all have different groups and we don't really hang out with each other a lot. I try to be consistent with my gym schedule and try to be on the time he works out. He goes to the same college as I do. This is important because most of our conversations can't go much further, deeper than talking about college or misc stuff about gym exercises, etc which aren't really too deep because he doesn't change, nor is open to changing his workout too much so there isn't too much variety on that. I try really hard to get to know the things he likes apart from going to the gym and it's really hard with this person. I don't usually have this type of problem of not knowing what to say next on a conversation as most of the times I already know what they like or the conversation just flows, but with this person maybe there isn't enough chemistry. It feels forced? I don't know really, maybe I am trying too hard and should let him try to get closer and just let it flow. For example, today I tried talking him about a gym trainer who is a beast and was lifting 1550 pounds on leg press, which is amazing. And I know it might not be the best thing to talk about but I want that to initiate a conversation. When I was telling him this he kind of ignored me with his headphones on and told me without even looking at me, looking down, "If you don't describe me who the trainer is, then I don't know". maybe I am too pushy? Or he has a ty personality or he couldn't care less on me or he just doesn't like me. Another thing is that I wanted to enroll with him on a common class we have on college, but I don't know if he doesn't want to. Is there a way I could become closer? Or just don't try forcing it anymore as there doesn't seem to be chemistry/common interests between us? Can it be that he doesn't do much more than going to college and gym and doesn't have any other interest? Would enrolling on a class with him be a good idea? What would you do? I think that maybe there is still some hope on the relationship becoming stronger as it isn't always like today and he just has some/a lot bad days. In reality, we all believe one thing but in reality the opposite is in effect. Don't want this to happen. Link to comment
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