RIPDIME Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 Hey everyone. I joined a band recently, and there's a girl in it. I've met with the band maybe five times, and four out of the five this girl has complimented me, about my hair, about my clothes etc, and I don't notice her saying this to other people. Usually, this means to me, that if a girl goes out of her way to compliment you she is interested, but the problem is that she has a boyfriend, so either I'm a crazy fool or she is. What is strange is that the other night, she got me to do up the back of her dress, while her boyfriend was nearby. When we drove back, she was right up against me, and she put her head on my shoulder for a bit, and then it was like she realized what she was doing and restrained. I'm not sure what other clues I can give, but she does seem to go near me, or sit next to me, and when I said I might be travelling later this summer, I thought I noticed she seemed upset. I notice that she doesn't necessarily get along with her boyfriend, and she rephrased talking about him as her boyfriend as I mean, 'him' etc.. so it seems to me that things might not be going as planned, or he isn't what she bargained for, but then again, these are just hunches.. I'm not very good at signs, and pretty pathetic at flirtation, but she said I am a good listener, so I do feel as though I am connecting. My last girlfriend was a year and a half ago, and I haven't had sex in a long time, and here is a girl that I have so much in common with and am attracted to.. but of course there's the problem that a) I may be misinterpreting someone who is just being friendly. b) She's still, as far as I can tell, in a relationship. c) If I show too much interest or make an advance, I have the potential of creeping someone out who wanted to just be friends and potentially ending the band. Any advice here? I know that some people might say this is immoral, but if her relationship isn't working, it's not. In any case, what can I do from this point forward? Is there anything I can say and do that would confirm 100% that she's into or not into me, so I can at-least figure this out? Thanks for reading. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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