man quiet in the bedroom.............

[lon71]

hi,

 

something has occurred to me since reading posts on here, namely a post on giving your man oral sex. people talk of their man squirming or moaning..............my man does nothing lol we are having problems in the bedroom department anyway and he's lost his sex drive as ive mentioned in another post.

he's always been quiet in the bedroom but i'd love him to moan and groan when i give him oral sex, so at least i know hes enjoying it, instead he lays there like a dead man half the time lol its nothing to do with my technique, i read books and things as i like to think i am doing things right, i ask him to what he likes..............more often than not i get not much of a response.

 

so all you men....do u moan and groan when having oral sex or do u lay there in silence. also, call me stupid right but i assume that all men just love oral sex and its the best thing u could do for them? sometimes i give my man oral sex and nothing.............no reaction, limp as anything. is this normal? i have been having problems in my sex life with my partner but it seems that maybe its not just about loss of sex drive. all i know is, its all stressing me out, ive had enough and i long to go to bed with someone who initiates sex, wants sex and is happy to have a wonderful lovemaking session.

[sweet_bebcho]

I feel for you. I dont' know why your man is quiet when you are doing that but normally they at least make a sound, or a twitch. Maybe there are too many things going on in his head right now. I know that if I'm really depressed or really really tired that there is no way that I can even get excited. My body wants to but it can't . Maybe he's bored and wants you to do something else to him.

 

I think that you should try to 'deep throat' him. Whenever I do it to my boyfriend, lets just say he's over the moon. I think that this technique will even wake the dead up. I think that its the idea of them inside you throat that makes it more enticing, especially if you can hum while you do it. Don't do it just after you've eaten a big dinner though, it may go wrong. Hope that this helps! You can private message me for some more tips if you like, Im no expert but I know that my man begs for it. Good luck.

[Morky]

I hope this is more politicly correct for our moderators.

 

Squeeze his testicals when you perform oral on him. That will get a reation. ;-)

[greenie35]

make use of your tongue...a lot of use of it...

 

i feel naughty eek

 

at times put your hand at the base while stimulating the top

[greenie35]

oh i was gonna ask...

 

does he watch you while you do it?

[lilsmc]

I agree with sweet_bebcho, My B/f goes crazy when i deep throat... He starts moaning soo loud and thats how we get into the mood for more!! Ahhh... Ok now i wish i was with him ( hehehe) Juss thinking about it, gets me thinking of wild things!!! LoL

[baddasslegend92]

Well I do moan and grown when my girl give me oral ..I like it when she stroke it with her hand while doing it.Now back in the days if I was not feeling the person that was doing it I would not moan(not that this the case with you)I mean what does he say about it??Do he have a personal problem getting it up ?Do he take any medications?

 

BTW ladies what do oral sex do for you guys??.My woman really gets turned on by it..I love it

[Mun]

sometimes i give my man oral sex and nothing.............no reaction, limp as anything. is this normal?

 

Hi there,

Has your man had a medical check up? If not then you should look into it. His lack of sex drive could be a symptom of something else.... talk to your doctor.

[Day_Walker]

Some people altogether dont make noise, it doesnt have to be an indicator of your performance, its simply how he is. If you want more participation on his part then make it more of a game and get him to tell you things why you are doing your business.

[kskm]

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Also, my ex laid on the bed and watched tv, and I know it wasn't me, because he'd finish, BUT he wouldn't say a word, not a moan not put his hands anywhere, nothing. My boyfriend now however, god does he moan, and it's sucha turn on for me to know that he's enjoying it.

SO TO ALL MEN THAT DON'T MOAN- START!!!!!! WE NEED TO KNOW IF YOU ARE ENJOYING YOURSELF!! WE DON'T READ MINDS!!!!

[someguy69]

I have a similar issue with my girlfriend.

 

I'm very quiet in bed (especially during oral sex), and she complains that I don't make enough noise -- she expects me to moan loudly or say things like, "ooh baby", "I like that", "that's good", etc, etc.

 

For me, I can't enjoy myself if I have to worry about talking -- and she certainly isn't talking to me when I'm going down on her.

 

It has in the past gotten to the point where she avoids giving me oral because she feels incompetent at it.

 

I feel under pressure to maintain a full erection, and moan and groan and say the right thing.

 

There are some communication problems as she wants feedback and me to tell her what I like and such, but it seems she's exceedingly intolerant of any criticism... so she wants me to tell her what I like, but not what I don't like... and sometimes she does stuff I really don't like.

 

For me personally, I don't like too much attention on the head of my penis... it's too sensitive. I far prefer sucking to licking. Anything more than the occasional brush of the tongue on the top of the head of my penis makes me squirm -- in a bad way, making me lose my erection.

 

Also, use of your hand is a good thing. If women could first learn to give a good handjob... then a blowjob would come easy because it would be an added bonus on top of the handjob.

 

Speed is a delicate issue. A blowjob (or handjob) should start off slow, and gradually increase in pace.

 

My girlfriend has also read all kinds of women's magazines and internet articles on giving good head, and all the advice she's gotten has been pretty lousy -- it made her techniques worse.

 

Stop reading magazines, and ask him what he likes... be patient and put aside a good piece of time to play around with and explore his penis.

[kskm]

We aren't asking for an in depth conversation, but try this;

faster, slower, harder softer

OR just make some kind of noise, not ohhh baby, but uhhh you know?

Just moan, nothing loud like on pornos, just something.

 

Also girls need to do the same. Something to give them direction

[lon71]

hi, thanks for all your good advice.

i seriously think my man has sexual problems........he doesnt like his testicles touched, hes not into being kissed all over etc etc, i havent tried the deep throat, maybe he's in for a nice surprise when i go down there next lol in all fairness he works extremely hard, i think thats half his problem but i know theres serious problems in our sex life at moment. sex has been good in the past so i know hes capable even if hes never moaned and groaned.

i envy all you peeps out there having moaning groaning sex lives and enjoying each other, the sexual frustration is unbearable sometimes, and before u all ask, yes ive tried the masturbation, got all the sex toys, it was ok at first and helped, but theres nothing like a real man and a good cuddle is there lol

[someguy69]

We aren't asking for an in depth conversation, but try this;

faster, slower, harder softer

OR just make some kind of noise, not ohhh baby, but uhhh you know?

Just moan, nothing loud like on pornos, just something.

 

"Mmmm, mmm, ahhh, mmm, uhhh" is about all the noise I can make without having to think about it, and I've been able to toss in the occasional, "oh yeah", "I like that" or "that's good", but my mind isn't thinking about talking, and I have to disturb my enjoyment to say a few words.

 

I've never been able to get my girlfriend to say, faster, slower, harder, softer... she tells me that what I'm doing is perfect and doesn't need any direction -- I think she wants to hear the same from me, but unfortunately I don't have much control over my erection, so she can tell right away if I'm not fully aroused.

[kskm]

lol. I would probably laugh if my guy started saying things like ohh baby, yeah right there. lol. God, I am laughing now. No but seriously just moan like you do when you eat something good. That's all

[quietgrl]

How is a woman suppose to know if she's doing a good job sexually if a man doesn't react.

[Survictor]

Yet if it doesn't come naturally to moan then why force that issue!

 

I make a helluva noise and my hubby is always telling me to be quiet!

[unface]

If you want to hear him make some noise, you should stick your finger in his butt like people are recommending in other threads.

 

I bet that'll get something out of him hahaha

[Survictor]

lol. May be a bit of a surprise though!

[quietgrl]

If you want to hear him make some noise, you should stick your finger in his butt like people are recommending in other threads.

 

I bet that'll get something out of him hahaha

 

 

face,

 

You're funny and It's hard to believe we're neighbors.We could have bum into eachother on the street.

How many men had a finger in their butt?

[rikka]

My guy is quiet in the bedroom (quite the contrast to me). We've talked about it. He said it isn't me, he's always been that way. Sometimes it is frustrating (and can really play on my self consciousness when trying something new), but I am becoming used to it.

 

Oh yeah, my finger is not allowed anywhere near his butt.