gonnabealright Posted May 4, 2017 Share Posted May 4, 2017 I just need advice to know I'm not actually crazy or if I am. About a month ago I asked my boyfriend of 3 years to just listen to me and not give me advice because his advice was more like an "I told you so" or just things I already knew but I just needed to talk and someone to listen to me. Which is now biting me in the butt that I ever said "don't give me advice" because he's used it against me 3 times already when I just ask a direct question. And today it just felt so unwarranted what he said and I just don't know how to go about it. I try to make him understand what he says hurts me but he just doesn't get it and I don't know what to say to him. This was the text. I was talking about calling my mom back who I had been on the phone with for 2 hours already. She was venting about the things going on in her life. Which yes she has every right to be upset but sometimes I just don't know what to say to her so I let her talk and tell her she's doing the right thing. But that's not what I was even asking him. ] Basically all I got out of what he said is he thinks I'm crazy and is being passive aggressive to me on top of it. I just don't know how to handle that. I'd love to talk things through with him, but he just shuts down and doesn't say anything and I don't know how to handle that. Personally it makes me feel like i am a nut and I keep fighting that. But after hearing it for almost 3 years and him never saying sorry for anything he says, I just don't know what to say anymore. I guess what I'm asking is how do I approach it without him shutting down and do I deserve this because I did say for him not to give me advice? and now he is calling me crazy because he doesn't want to step on my toes? Am I rationalizing his behavior? Or does it seem unwarranted? Link to comment
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