ConfusedHere1 Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 I ask because I have always been on the receiving end of the breakup. I've never forgotten anyone that's dumped me, but I wonder if the same is true if you are the dumper? I dunno. I have self-esteem issues and for some reason, the idea that someone I've loved and invested time in can forget about me as easily as the quadratic formula after high school scares me. I know I am not the most memorable person (and most people probably won't remember me during my high school reunion), but I can't deal with the possible fact that I could be forgotten. Thoughts from dumpers? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujusamples Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 No, you wont' be easily forgotten. Yes, the dumper do think of the dumpee every now and then. If something reminds me of an ex I broke up with, I will think of them. Just because a relationship didn't work out, does not mean the person thinks less of you. They just find that you are not compatible. It's only when you beg and plead is when the person will think less of you. Don't be so hard on yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boltnrun Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Even the exes I can't stand, I don't "forget" they exist. Someone may not want to be in a relationship with you, but they don't experience a complete memory wipe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matt3939 Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 I've been on both ends. I wouldn't worry at all about being forgotten as long as you actually had a relationship with the person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annia Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 I've also been on both ends and I don't think they forget you. If the relationship didn't end up on bad terms they might even think found of you and remember the good times. However just because they don't want to be in a relationship with you or the relationship doesn't work, it doesn't mean you are of less value. In order to move on it doesn't matter how much they think of you... I know it's reassuring to think about it, but if you truly want to move on it's even better that they don't show you that they think about you or even miss your company (in case they do). I've been truly heartbroken due to being unceremoniously dumped but it's a lesson I had to learn in order to heal and don't use it as confirmation of past self esteem issues I have. Relationships aren't failed because they finish. It takes self awareness to notice when something is not working and end it and it also takes strength to be on the receiving end of a break up, I know. These past relationships are here to teach us something, and when both of them already taught the other what they needed to learn, they usually fall apart. It doesn't mean that it failed or that you are of less value. Being dumped totally sucks I know, but it's always a big lesson too. For me the heartbreak of being dumped and feeling rejected served as a huge wake up call for the self esteem issues I needed to work on and that were present even before those relationships. Now you're free to rebuild yourself, work on your issues and be the best you can be. Maybe they even done you a favour, though in the middle of pain it almost seems insulting to be told this because as we all know it hurts a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeyD2000 Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 I've also been on both ends and I don't think they forget you. If the relationship didn't end up on bad terms they might even think found of you and remember the good times. However just because they don't want to be in a relationship with you or the relationship doesn't work, it doesn't mean you are of less value. In order to move on it doesn't matter how much they think of you... I know it's reassuring to think about it, but if you truly want to move on it's even better that they don't show you that they think about you or even miss your company (in case they do). I've been truly heartbroken due to being unceremoniously dumped but it's a lesson I had to learn in order to heal and don't use it as confirmation of past self esteem issues I have. Relationships aren't failed because they finish. It takes self awareness to notice when something is not working and end it and it also takes strength to be on the receiving end of a break up, I know. These past relationships are here to teach us something, and when both of them already taught the other what they needed to learn, they usually fall apart. It doesn't mean that it failed or that you are of less value. Being dumped totally sucks I know, but it's always a big lesson too. For me the heartbreak of being dumped and feeling rejected served as a huge wake up call for the self esteem issues I needed to work on and that were present even before those relationships. Now you're free to rebuild yourself, work on your issues and be the best you can be. Maybe they even done you a favour, though in the middle of pain it almost seems insulting to be told this because as we all know it hurts a lot. Well said Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CBC2000 Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Don't sell yourself so short hun, the answer to your question is that they don't forget about you, but you shouldn't dwell on that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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