notsomature Posted February 22, 2017 Share Posted February 22, 2017 I've been feeling very down in the dumps since the end of last year (2016). What was the catalyst for me feeling this way was when my ex and I broke up. It wasn't a very long relationship (6 months) but it was the longest relationship I ever had. He dumped me after pushing me away for half of our relationship and then he moved on to his female "buddy" whom I always questioned him about. From that experience in my life, it made me feel very unworthy -- mainly because he chose someone else over me & it really impacts my self-confidence. Then just within the last month, after I found out that my ex & his "buddy" were together, my 2 year close-friendship started to break apart. My step-dad used to ask me why I was friends with her (Lue) because I always complained about being her designated-driver whenever we go out. I complained about other shady things she used to do as well. But I didn't realize until last month how unhealthy the friendship was. I basically learned that she was a great person to go on adventures and have fun with. But when it came to providing sound advice, healthy support, and understanding...she couldn't provide those things. She loved playing devil's advocate when all you needed was a listening ear. But when you played devil's advocate with her, she got annoyed really quickly. Her solution to most things were drinking & clubbing. Now Lue & I are no longer friends. Not only that, but my old co-workers are more friends with her than me so that means that I've kind of lost that whole social circle as well. So all within the last year and beginning of 2017, I've lost a bunch of people that granted were unhealthy for me, but in the end I feel defeated for some reason. I feel alone. I still have maybe 1 or 2 friends that I can count on. But I don't want to burden them too much in this season of my life, cuz I can be a bit depressing to hang around right now. So all I have is God right now. Has anyone else gone through a similar phase in their life? What did you do to overcome the lonely & self-defeating thoughts and feelings? What is something positive I can tell myself? Is what is happening to me normal? Link to comment
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