How long is too long?

[Petrovska971]

Didn't you say in an earlier post you were NOT moving for "him" per se?

 

So why would what HE says (either way) make any difference as far as your move goes?

 

You want to move to the same area, then move.

 

Why do you need to be on the same page, assuming again you are not moving for "him" which is what you previously said.

 

I agree with Soul Taker on this.

 

Discuss status of your RL but do NOT bring up the "move."

 

It will place too much pressure on him (too soon) and yes he WILL presume you are moving for "him" no matter what you say.

 

Just do what you want, move wherever you want, regardless of what happens in your RL.

 

You don't need his approval or permission or agreement or anything else to do so.

 

You do it for YOU, because it's what you want to do regardless.

 

I cannot thank you enough for this. I am considering a city in the same state, one in a bordering state and one a little further south -- but will definitely not raise it when we talk.

 

I really find this very valuable advice you've all given me, sound and fair. I need to now just get past my fears and put it all out there kindly, rationally and honestly.