kmiks216 Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 I've been married for just a year and a half now, b4 we got married my husband was very passionate always left surprises always wrote me beautiful notes just because, always told me how much he loved me etc.. now he hardly does anything like that it's truly depressing, I told him once how I felt and he acted sweet for like 2 days and then went back to normal, I know he loves me but it feels like the minute we got married all romance and things I loved about him just died... is this normal? Link to comment
Matt3939 Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 I can say I've done this is the past mine is definitely the second. It could be two things. Either the honeymoon phase is over and that's just who he is. Or something went down and he stopped. If something happened then it's very hard to get back to where u were. Good luck Link to comment
kmiks216 Posted October 15, 2016 Author Share Posted October 15, 2016 I can say I've done this is the past mine is definitely the second. It could be two things. Either the honeymoon phase is over and that's just who he is. Or something went down and he stopped. If something happened then it's very hard to get back to where u were. Good luck Would it be a bad idea to bring it up again to him? I hate nagging I really do Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 Maybe you both should read the 5 love languages book and discuss it. That would be a good way to talk about how each other wants to be shown love. And then it's not nagging. Play it off as "one of my girlfriends recommended this book and I thought it would be fun to read ahead of the new year. Maybe we can learn something and make some resolutions for 2017 together?" Link to comment
Hermes Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 "... is this normal? Well no, not really. The change should not have been so abrupt the "minute" you got married. Maybe he feels he no longer has to try? Maybe. A marriage needs nurturing just like a plant if it isn't to wither away. Link to comment
kmiks216 Posted October 15, 2016 Author Share Posted October 15, 2016 That's exactly what I think! Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 What romantic, passionate things do you do? Some mellowing will happen and hopefully the pursuit wasn't all you liked about this. Do you still go out? Is the sex ok? I told him once how I felt and he acted sweet for like 2 days and then went back to normal, I know he loves me but it feels like the minute we got married all romance and things I loved about him just died. Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 How much romance do you need? Romance is fine in short spurts. Link to comment
kmiks216 Posted October 15, 2016 Author Share Posted October 15, 2016 What romantic, passionate things do you do? Some mellowing will happen and hopefully the pursuit wasn't all you liked about this. Do you still go out? Is the sex ok? No he use to just grab me and start kissing me out of nowhere and be all passionate. He use to surprise me with romantic dinners that he cooked, leave notes on my pillow text me beautiful notes about our future. Now he doesn't he is still attentive here and there he does go everywhere with me he doesn't disappear or anything like that but it's just very different not to mention he promised that would never change and it has... and he use to always say "I love you more" any time I've said I love you it was our thing he doesn't even say that any more we use to hook up all the time now it's like once a week if that.. Link to comment
kmiks216 Posted October 15, 2016 Author Share Posted October 15, 2016 How much romance do you need? Romance is fine in short spurts. I just answered that in another response to someone else if u want to read it. Link to comment
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