Making her finish

[Tinydance]

OK read all the replies again. First of all, I think you are a very good boyfriend (well in the bedroom department anyway, I'm just not sure how you are in other ways lol). What she's willing to do sexually is very limited and you have been very patient and accepting of that. Not to mention you waited seven months to have sex! I'm a woman and even I don't know if I could wait that long (I'm very sexual). It's obvious you care about this girl a lot but as some others have said, she needs to make more effort with sex too and she needs to be more open-minded and more comfortable.

 

I think the fact that you don't even feel comfortable to masturbate in your own home because you're worried about what she might think is not very good. If I lived with a partner, I wouldn't care if they masturbated and I would want them not to care if I masturbate either. One thing I love though personally is sometimes masturbating together WITH my partner and watching each other. I would even want to just watch my partner doing it on their own as well. Do you think she would be up for this?

 

Also you said she seems bored and not that interested. Well, is she going to do anything about it? Spice things up, so to speak? It's probably only boring for her because she's MAKING it boring. Also maybe I'm wrong, but even if she can't come from oral sex, does she really have to say "Don't worry about doing that, it doesn't do anything for me". I mean, if it feels nice and makes her wet, then she could just enjoy it for at least a bit to use as foreplay. I'm not surprised you're becoming stressed about sex because she basically rejects all your efforts to pleasure her and make things more exciting in the bedroom. I mean, of course if she really doesn't like those things, then it's not right to force her, but maybe she could just be a bit more open-minded.

 

Also what things does she do for you? I think you could try to get her more excited by watching some porn together, lots of foreplay, maybe both masturbate a bit beforehand, or just her for example, to get in the mood. She doesn't have to do anything that's painful but things that are nOT painful should be fine and it just sounds like she's even closed off to them as well.

 

Also she may need to see a therapist about all these issues, do you think she would be willing to do that?

[BrianH46]

Switching positions often allows you to gauge what is working and what isn't and also gives you a little time to recoup if you are close to climax. My fiance has never experienced an orgasm before and it was frustrating me as well, I think I even started a thread on it actually. Anyways we found her position accidentally when we were going at it on the couch. Try having her on her back and pushing on the backside of her knees until he knees touch the bed/floor (if she is comfortable with it). The other is having her on her back, her knees over your shoulders and pushing down until her knees touch or come close to touching her face and pull yourself forward so that your chest is against her face. My fiance always squirts in this position so maybe even have a towel ready.

[dannywhoo]

If I'm close to Cumming and my girlfriend isn't, I slow down for a few seconds and tease her a little, go really slow and dirty talk etc.

 

My current girl said she hardly climaxed with many men and faked it quite a lot. (she told me this before things got even got casual and she was dating, so I'm sure she wasn't just stroking my ego) And when we met she had 6 times as many sexual partners as I've had. So like most women I've slept with (all have had many more than me) the challenge was on.

 

I find, It's not just about the position it's angle as well, even a subtle moment of an inch or so can make all the difference. The more I've had sex with my current girlfriend the more I know when she's going to cum, it can be here reaction or she'll tell me right there (she only just started doing this), dig her nails into my arms, making more intense noises etc

 

It's hard to describe but I'll try...

 

If I'm on top, with her legs on my shoulders I try different things to get a reaction from her, sometimes I push her legs towards her shoulders but push down harder on one leg which gives you a slighly different angle. Sometimes I'll sort of lower my ass and body a little (this is really hard to put into words lol) so I thrusting at a different angle. Sometimes I'll move my knees a little closer/further away and I'm either sort of grinding on her or using my full length. Sometimes I'll put a lot of weight on her and other times her legs will be almost vertical. I even switch between these when it feels to good and I need a few seconds. When I'm hitting the right spot, and she gives me a cue that she's into it, I just keep a consistent rhythm and she pops. Sometimes ill be going from one angle and have to switch to one that's less energetic because I'm tired and she'll cum. So it's sort of different everytime.

 

A couple times she's seemed like she was going to cum (legs shaking etc) and hasn't, I did and she told me she was close afterwards. So I do little things she likes to push her over the edge when I know she's almost there, such as choking her, asking her to choke me, dirty talk etc etc. You'll need to figure the little things out with your woman though, they aren't universal.

 

I've made her cum from all positions, but some are really difficult. From the side she hardly ever does (I'm not massive, I think this has something to do with it lol) she said it feels nice (Im not sure if this is a good thing) but what turns her on is way I hold her and move her around so it feels better for me and when I moan it turns her on more. Every now and again she'll get there.

 

Sometimes we'll do a lot of foreplay and sometimes we do little. One time I was really horny, and sucked her nipples in a teasy way and she mentioned afterwards she found it sexy the way I did it. So the next time we had sex I spent a long time doing it and she really quick. I've only gotten her there once with oral and a couple times with my fingers. I've found with women in the past that the cum from oral after you've been having sex a while then getting down there when she's enjoying it, so you could try that.

 

I've only had sex with 6 women, my last two girlfriends have cum almost everytime. This is what I've done with each of them and it's worked for me.

 

In my experience communication, position, angle, rhythm. Make for good sex.

[dannywhoo]

Ps some women just can't let go. They just can't no matter how hard they try. One of my girlfriends friends had never had an orgasm, from sex or masturbation.