WhiteIcE Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 I am not going to be a pessimist any longer! I can't take it any longer, so I've decided to move on. I have an idea of what Im going to do I just wanna see what some people think about it. What do you girls think about guys who are always happy and very confident? I want to try to be happy as much as possible, put on a smile and act friendly, but Im not sure if this will scare people away or not. Link to comment
QTpie87 Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 well i dought it will be easy at first, but that is a great idea. girls love confident guys who are looking on the bright side of things. i imagine it is the same for men so go for it. good luck, love QTpie87 Link to comment
WhiteIcE Posted January 22, 2005 Author Share Posted January 22, 2005 also, I know this is a totally different subject, but everytime I goto the mall and such I always see these girls approaching guys, and introducing themselves and stuff......How the heck would I get someone to do that to me.... BTW, not ugly here lol Link to comment
Caldus Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 [i know I'm not a girl but just wanted to throw in some points for you.] Girls are approaching guys? That's pretty rare. Don't expect it to happen to you if it's happening to other guys. It's usually the guy's job to approach the girl. Keeping that in mind, yes it's good to have confidence. However, there are so many ways to show confidence. That's why a lot of people advise to be yourself. When you are yourself, you seem to exude more confidence around other people. There is no magical recipe that makes you the most confident man in the world. However, being yourself is probably the most important thing. You are on the right track. Smiling is great too. You don't have to look all cheerful but look far from frustrated or sad. It works both ways. Would you want to meet a girl who looks sad? I think it's great that you want to become more confident. Improving your confidence will help you in so many other things in life other than women. You will find that you're doing better in school, that it's hard for people to put you down easily, that you can easily approach new people, that you can feel more comfortable in a job interview, and so on. You will be thanking yourself in the long run. Link to comment
Celadon Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 White[icE], good for you! Happy and confident is good, and girls will respond positively to that. Really, what it boils down to is deciding to have a good attitude, regardless of what kinds of things are happening around you. I'm learning that circumstances and things aren't what make me happy or unhappy -- *I* make me happy or unhappy. Sometimes when I'm in a bad mood, I try to turn it around by celebrating every little thing I can. Let us know how it goes... Link to comment
Celadon Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 White[icE], good for you! Happy and confident is good, and girls will respond positively to that. Really, what it boils down to is deciding to have a good attitude, regardless of what kinds of things are happening around you. I'm learning that circumstances and things aren't what make me happy or unhappy -- *I* make me happy or unhappy. Sometimes when I'm in a bad mood, I try to turn it around by celebrating every little thing I can. Let us know how it goes... Link to comment
Celadon Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 Whoops, sorry, I double posted... Link to comment
HajiMaji Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 Man, just practice being happy/confident/optimistic. Its funny to put those words together. Usually we say practice your guitar or practice you math. But hey, being happy and optimistic and living with confidence is just as much an artform as classical gutiar or quantum physics. Infact, id say happiness as an artform quite possibley is the greatest art one could hope to master. So if you dont do well at first its ok, i admire you for making this step Dude, youll get it. Confidence will get girls interested. Hell it will make everyone more interested in your life. Its a good thing if you can help bring people up, cause in turn they will then bring you up. Its the awesome circle of life.. Girls approaching you is unlikely. Try to ignore the fact you are talking to a girl when you decide to introduce yourself. That way they wont pick up any weird vibes and you will be totally cool. Dont expect anything. Just go out to the world, be yourself and eventually someone will be interested in you and you will be able to tell. If you are hung up on the females too much youll miss it. Link to comment
Desired1 Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 Theres nothing wrong with being happy and confident. It's when you act like that continuosly that is kinda creepy. Be happy and understand that it's OK to get mad every once in a while. Just try not to over do it. Hope I helped Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 22, 2005 Share Posted January 22, 2005 Having confidence and believing in yourself is one of the most attractive qualities you can have. It will help you in relationships and more importantly with life in general. You will begin to feel better about yourself and that will help in all aspects of your life. As long as you don't overdo it (smiling all the time and be too enthusasitic) you'll be better off for it. To work on your confidence, focus on things that you are good at. Keep reminding yourself that you are a good person with lots of talents. Link to comment
SkyFire Posted January 23, 2005 Share Posted January 23, 2005 ]I am not going to be a pessimist any longer! I can't take it any longer, so I've decided to move on. I have an idea of what Im going to do I just wanna see what some people think about it. What do you girls think about guys who are always happy and very confident? I want to try to be happy as much as possible, put on a smile and act friendly, but Im not sure if this will scare people away or not. Im not a chick, but they dig it. Alot. And not only chicks, everyone else will too. Would you rather be with a chick that moans and complains all the time, or with one that is happy and fun? You just answered it yourself Link to comment
Caldus Posted January 23, 2005 Share Posted January 23, 2005 I don't like a chick who is too cheerful though. That would kind of turn me off a little. It's OK to be cheerful most of the time but I would rather like to see her be honest with her own feelings sometimes instead of always trying to act cheerful. Link to comment
xcountryprincess Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Just be true to how you feel at that moment. If your not feeling amazingly perky don't force yourself to act as if you are. Fake smiles, laughs and attitudes are not attractive, but then again neither is being pessimistic. To be honest, i would wanna date a guy who want afraid to show his true feelings. However while showing your feelings you dont want to inflict your pesimisstic views on others. Just be you and allow yourself to feel how you feel, at that moment in time Link to comment
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