I AM ROYALLY SCREWING THIS UP

[sleuth222]

I know better.

I know better.

please forgive this long post; i need a reality check from you people!

 

 

I know better. Seriously, I really do know that when someone says "I'm confused." they mean "I'm so confused I cant even be trusted to be kind and honest in this situation, and I don't know if i Love you anymore and you should run for your life unless I come to your house someday bang on the door and say I'm no longer confused."

 

but I am really going in for the long version on pain here.

 

we had a great time, then we had a bad time, then we fought, then i told him on thanksgiving i thought it wasn't working, then i went away for 2 weeks, foudn out that before I had even gone away, he had posted an online ad -- a personal ad--he said he was just clowning around with friends, which is absurdly immature (he's in his 30's and has been divorced) anyway, he said please please don't break up.so i didn't. so i get home and he has decided yes, indeed, he is confused and couldn't say he did, or didn't, love me.

 

i know--run like hell.

 

instead, i'm seeing him sunday night. i don't know what i expect. it's ridiculous. i can't seem to let go even though i think i'm just headed for more pain

[BrandonBo]

in this situation u have to communicate its the only way to make relationships work if u want them he doesnt know wut he wants how long have u been together maybe the commitment is gettin to him he may not know wut to think of it

[ashik]

people seriously are confused sometime in their relationships, thats perfectly normal, dont give him the luxuary of doing wut he wants and commin to u when all other options have exausted..

but jus go with the flow, dont push him or nethin, act normal, jus lik a friend would and c where it goes, u'l get clues as to where its goin

 

and always remember..ACTIONS SPEEK LOUDER THAN WORDS..

 

goodluck

[sleuth222]

yes actions do speak louder than words

 

and while he said he missed me

 

he hasn't emailed or called in a month without my prompting it.

that's a strong statement no?

 

he didn't even send a christmas card.

 

i pushed for tomorrow night's meeting. i don't think his wanting to go actually constitutes adn action--if i asked...............you know?