mhowe Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 My aunt was a schizophrenic....she raised 3 kids and was an RN. As long as she was on her meds, she was fine. When she went off....as they often do...she was manic. If their father wasn't home, the would go to a neighbors house until he got home. I think a friendship is far different than a parental figure. Link to comment
Lolligirl Posted December 16, 2014 Author Share Posted December 16, 2014 My aunt was a schizophrenic....she raised 3 kids and was an RN. As long as she was on her meds, she was fine. When she went off....as they often do...she was manic. If their father wasn't home, the would go to a neighbors house until he got home. I think a friendship is far different than a parental figure. Woah, wow. The children would leave to the neighbors' house??? If I'm understanding correctly, that sounds like a sad, stressful situation for a child to grow up in. Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Three children....they understood their mother had an illness that would manifest at times and it was better to remove themselves then subjected to her verbal accusations. Link to comment
Lolligirl Posted December 16, 2014 Author Share Posted December 16, 2014 Wow. I have no idea whether such an issue would present itself in this situation--we've only been actually dating for a very short while--but I wouldn't want to put my child through that. Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 Your child is your first priority. This was their mother....not some stranger. Link to comment
Lolligirl Posted December 16, 2014 Author Share Posted December 16, 2014 The stubborn part of me is telling myself that he wouldn't have such dramatic episodes, he takes his meds regularly, and I've never experienced such an incident with him. He has mentioned blackouts in the (fairly) recent past, but I haven't seen one. Still...? Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 My aunt was nurse. On meds she was stable. She would decide she was fine and didn't need the meds...and an episode would occur. She wasnt violent...but she could be verbally nasty. Once she sold their washer and dryer. Another time she disappeared for 2 days. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 The stubborn part of me is telling myself that he wouldn't have such dramatic episodes, he takes his meds regularly, and I've never experienced such an incident with him. He has mentioned blackouts in the (fairly) recent past, but I haven't seen one. Still...? Is your baby worth the risk? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted December 16, 2014 Share Posted December 16, 2014 The stubborn part of me is telling myself that he wouldn't have such dramatic episodes, he takes his meds regularly, and I've never experienced such an incident with him. He has mentioned blackouts in the (fairly) recent past, but I haven't seen one. Still...? When you're a mom to a young child especially that stubborn part of you has to give way to the best interests of your child. You brought a baby into this world -she is helpless right now - tell the stubborn part of you to listen to the mama bear part of you. Link to comment
Miss Firecracker Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 The drugs are likely to have serious side effects, then they have to change to something new. Sometimes they run out of options. Link to comment
confuzzled1 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 You may be stubborn, but the question to ask yourself is this: if he had an episode/the voices told him something and he did something to your child would you forgive yourself? If the answer is no then do not continue this relationship. Yes he is OK now. But that is now. There is no guarantee he may not have to switch meds/change doses in the near future. That can mess people up pretty badly. And are you willing to risk your child's safety on a few pills? Essentially what your question boils down to is who is more important to you, a man who you may have a relationship with that you don't know how he will act, or your child. Only you can answer that. Link to comment
Lolligirl Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 You're all right. My baby is more important than any romantic connection, by far, and I'm not willing to take the risk, no matter how safe he says he is, or how much he says schizophrenia is stigmatized. This sucks. But I know what I need to do. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 You're all right. My baby is more important than any romantic connection, by far, and I'm not willing to take the risk, no matter how safe he says he is, or how much he says schizophrenia is stigmatized. This sucks. But I know what I need to do. Just keep repeating to yourself that you've made the right decision. Good for you! Link to comment
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