Sex on a first date with someone you have known for a few years? Yes or No?

[Batya33]

You're right about batya33.

 

My point was more about doing what is right for oneself and not basing it on what others determine as right.

 

Oh of course! I also think that it can be difficult to figure out what is right for oneself as opposed to "do what feels right at the moment despite regrets later" especially when sex is involved with a new person.

[SoulTaker]

This is someone that you worked with, not someone that you had a previous relationship with. So, knowing the person doesn't mean as much in this case.

 

Whether women like it or not, men do place an evaluation on a woman who sleeps around right off the bat. If you do it with him, then you could have done it with others. It also disrupts the learning process in getting to know each other.

 

There's little to gain by having sex right away. There's potentially a lot to gain in waiting to see if the two are you relationship material. Now, if you want to turn this into a FWB situation, then go at it.

[IAmFCA]

If you have sex with this man, and then decide you want more, and he doesn't, you need to be willing to walk. That can be more difficult once sex happened, especially if it is intoxicating.

 

If you don't have sex, you give yourself more flexibility.