I feel easily replaceable

[Mentor]

I have a habit of stating the obvious but these men seem at the very least incredibly tactless but most of all incredibly insecure. Why do they waste time making someone feel bad by going on about the great new person? Lucky new girlfriends!

 

They just sound cold - and the pattern will be repeating itself with New Girlfriend when you've moved on and got someone worthy of your time.

 

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[Ated]

Hey i was just surfing the net and found this... it made me feel better and is a good way of thinking! Especially the last sentence!!!

 

 

Choosing Your Attitude

Stress: How to Cope with Pressure

 

Yes, choose! We have little control over many stressful events and the bigger the event, the smaller we may feel by comparison.

 

For example, when we hear about famine in Africa, we may feel overwhelmed by the sheer scale of the problem. Very few of us, however, would refuse to give food to a hungry person, if asked.

 

By maintaining this attitude, we may decide to do what we can, however small our action may seem. We choose our action by standing for hope. We can reserve the right to be optimistic, and to think positively about solutions to problems, including our own. I call this learned optimism "thinking well". Thinking well about difficulties is:

 

 

constructive

 

flexible

 

impartial

 

curious

 

balanced

 

tolerant

 

 

By contrast, thinking "badly" (by reacting to difficulties with knee-jerk negativity and pessimism) is:

 

destructive

 

rigid

 

cynical

 

frustrating

 

resentful

 

sarcastic

 

Take the example of Eliza, a young woman who is jilted and feeling unloved. She might despair and conclude that she is worthless and useless, but this type of thinking is corrosive and negative. An optimistic alternative would be to try to consider the best possible outcome – accomplishing a happy relationship despite the difficulties. Eliza's thoughts might run like this:

 

I have love to give.

 

I need to find the right partner.

 

I did my best in the relationship but that wasn't enough.

 

It won't help to blame anyone.

I'm a worthwhile person even if that relationship isn't.