How to deal with jealousy after sort of getting back together?

[Teebz]

I say 'sort of' back together because we are taking things really slow, and we do not feel like labelling what we have just yet.

That is mostly out of fear (a lot on my part) of ruining things again. During our breakup of 9 months, my (then)ex got into an open relationship.

That is over now, but I cannot help but get incredibly jealous when I happen to see a picture of her (his ex), or other girls on his computer or on his Facebook page.

He showed me a bunch of pictures of a party at his house, and his ex kept popping up. It makes me incredibly sad and even a bit sick to see this girl, and know that they were together, sharing these great moments while I felt so bad and was missing him.

Every time I feel like this I want to pull away from him, so I don't get hurt anymore. He notices this and it makes him sad, he tries to reassure me, but it just doesn't work. Please, any advice? I hate feeling this jealous and I don't want to ruin this second chance!

[Edmund Exley]

This is usually one of the major roadblocks of reconciliation and the only way to deal with it is to realize that you cant change the past.