I fear that I've lost him

[crazysexycool23]

Ok i went out w/ a guy on a date 2 yrs ago and he was really interested in me coming on very strong. I was very attracted to him too it was magnetic.I felt the same but I was in a bad situation so I ended up going away and marrying someone else to get away from the situation at home. This guy always used to talk to me online for almost two years and he stopped after we had a fight about politics. All this time I made it clear I'm very attracted to him and I want him and I even sent him a classy lingerie pic.

When he stopped talking to me this made me think that he was really mad and wouldn't talk to me ever again. Then I made a new screen name and discovered that he had blocked me. I called him a jerk etc and then about a month later I wondered if I had wronged him in some way so I said I didnt mean to offend and I'm sorry and I told him about why I got married and everything and that i'd be back in a few months and gave him my phone number etc. He hasnt blocked my new screen name but he doesn't talk to me. I haven't contacted him since. His past girlfriends have cheated on him so I feared that he put me in the same category and that he really hates me for arguing about the political issue which was his religion etc. I don't know if he is really mad or if he is trying to control me or if he's trying to make me miss him.

When I first went out with him I was pulling back I was trying to figure out if he was a jerk or good guy because I am horrified of being abused and I have intimacy issues and I don't like to share myself with anyone or be in situation I can't control. Now looking back I feel that he was a good man so how do I go about getting a second chance? I know where he lives but I'm not about to contact him ever again because I don't want to be a 'stalker'.

This would have been my first relationship of my choice. Does this sound like this guy will ever forgive me or should I just move on? Should I bother going back to see him or do you think there's no hope for this?

[Birdman]

Were you married when you im him. If so he probably blocked you because he didn't want to ruin your maraige. That makes me think that he likes you. But, since he has been hurt in previous relationships he probably will not contact you. So, you need to contact him. I have heared that food is the window toa mans soul. So, i think you should write him a note telling him how you feel(if you don't want to tell him in person) and buy or make something really good (like a cheesecake or somthin) and give it (or leave it for) him. I hope this helps.

God bless.

[crazysexycool23]

Yes I was married then. But when we went out I wasn't. I got married because he was being too cheap with me. He insinuated that I was a golddigger. He even resented the fact that he paid for a date (under $10) that HE asked me out on. At the time I thought that he would help me get away from abusive situation at home but I gave up on him and went with someone else...

Two months ago I had explained to him why I got married and such when he was ignoring me and 4 days ago he started talking to me. I was surprised and happy. But it was short lived since I felt that he is playing with my feelings. That maybe he thinks me liking him is a weakness. I thought he was angry but he never mentioned anything just went on like everything was ok. Then when I try Iming him he just ignores me. Feels like he likes to reel me in then be distant. It seems like he is always avoiding conflict and confrontations. And when I rock the boat he punishes me with silent treatments. I wish there was a book about how to decode guys.