does he or does he not

[buckley]

Hiya ppl......my name is well buckley obviously, im 22yrs old and currently living in london but from dublin ireland.

This is my first time writing on this site and im not usualy the kinda person who can open up this easy, but im really confused. Im usualy a confident exspressive person but lately things have been too much for me and i feel more quiet.

Ive got a few things on my mind but i dont wana bothe ryou all with all of it, because believe in me its so complicated...my life usualy is hehe.

when i came oevr to london i met this wonderful guy ive kept in touch whos friends with a friend of mine for over a year. weve been off and on for almost 10 mnths now and i just dont know whats goin on.

he never calls me yet when i call him hes really happy that i have and gets all excited and asks me over, then the next day walking home he will ask me to stay again and tell me he misses me. then i wont hear from him.....hes told me even before imet him in london how he cant get close to people as hes scared of being hurt again. i said it was ok but as log as i knew he did care about me. I get upset though sometimes when he wont call etc because i dont understand how you can liek someone and not go out of your wayfor them, but i understand hes warned me that he cant do this . he gts really stressed that he will hurt me but i dont listen because i cant..i love him. then outta nowhere he will call and say do u need to know where we stand, and i know its really him who wants to know and then he will say how much he does care about me and htinks of me all the time and his work mates tell me how they always know when ive been at his house nbecause hes all smiley when he walks in to work etc. sometimes i get tired of not knowin if he loves me, hes even stopped being affectionate but when i go to leave him he gets really upset, he never tries to stop me because he knowc he cant get attached yet to me but he gets really upset and he will hug me and not let go and say how important it is to stay in touch etc. we always end up together again though, we try to be friends but it never pulls through to the end. i can feel he loves me but does he really???? he has anxiety attacks and stresses, he cant opn up to me but when i go to walk away he does and its then that he does tell me how he feels and says htings like he wishes i saw other ppl because then he just coudlnt liek me and he wouldnt have to deal with this. what do u think? weird or what???

this time after leaving him he said he still wnated ot get back together but when the time is more right. what do u think of htis. hes slept with someone else when we were apart also, but he said he was down and needed someone. i left him officaly for this but when we kept i touch he always spoke about past times with us and how he would love to have certain times together again usualy in a sexual way though.......can u guys make anythin of this?

thanks for your help

[unhappygrl]

I think he's probably he's a little mentally disturbed. (I mean it

literally, because I'm taking Psychology right now and it seems

that he kind of fits in to one of the category.) He probably

loves you, but his sickness causes him to push you away. And

he is more comfortable when he's around people that don't

really matter that much like the new grl that he slept with. The

reason why he sleeps with her is because he is lonely from not

being around you, but his sickness makes it impossible to be

around you. thereforeeeeee, you're put into this situation.

 

I think you should give up on this guy; it's useless and it's going

to be hard to help him out and help this relationship out. Unless however

you really love him too much to pull out, you should really consider

leaving this to give yourself the opportunity to meet other people.