hazelwut Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 So I weekly checked my ex boyfriend's twitter and I don't know why I just did that out of curiosity. I have no contact and no feelings no more to him, I used to check because he was in the same community and when my friend tweeting with him I sometimes opened his profile too just to know what is up in our community. Now I have a happy relationship ever. I'm afraid if my boyfriend knows this he will get hurt (or is it not a big deal?). I mean, I'm just bored and we even in a long distance relationship, so he won't know this but I love him so much I'm about to move to his country in a month. Now I stop checking anymore because one time my 2nd ex texted me how I'm doing and replied few and I told my bf this and he seemed to be a bit upset. I explained to him that we just texting few and I didn't reply anymore because my ex seemed to expect more and he understands, even he really trusts me because I do love him and willing to be honest to him. He is my everything, I don't want secret between us and I don't want him to get hurt. We've been together for 5 months now (few days after breaking up with my ex), and I was with ex for 8 months. The question is, checking ex's profile called cheating? And should I bring this up to my bf? Do I need to tell him (reminding we're still in a new relationship). One time I skype with him and he looked me a bit sad because I was thinking too much about this that I think I need to tell him that I used to check my ex's profile and explained everything, because I feel like I keep a secret. He asked me if everything is fine, I said yes, and he asked me again 'really?', and I lied to him that everything is fine which I think is not. We just really have a strong connection together. What do you guys think? Thanks everyone x Link to comment
Deejmonster Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 I think for many reasons you should stop. There is no real need to continue looking if the both of you are living your own lives. I don't see a need for you to mention something to the current bf. Its not harming anyone however, if you continue it can really cause a lot of issues with trust and security. I wouldn't call it cheating but I would understand if your bf would feel as if you were being a little dishonest. Quit now please. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 We've been together for 5 months now (few days after breaking up with my ex), and I was with ex for 8 months. I wonder if this is happening because you didn't give yourself the time to heal, before getting into another relationship? Link to comment
Justme3 Posted March 25, 2013 Share Posted March 25, 2013 You only checked once and that's ok. It's not cheating. If it becomes a habit or an obsession then it may become a problem. You're allowed to think of your ex and wonder. Link to comment
hazelwut Posted March 25, 2013 Author Share Posted March 25, 2013 I think for many reasons you should stop. There is no real need to continue looking if the both of you are living your own lives. I don't see a need for you to mention something to the current bf. Its not harming anyone however, if you continue it can really cause a lot of issues with trust and security. I wouldn't call it cheating but I would understand if your bf would feel as if you were being a little dishonest. Quit now please. Thank you so much for your advice. I have stopped checking since few days ago. And as long as It's not cheating (because you're a guy and you told me this), I think bf and I will be just fine. Link to comment
hazelwut Posted March 25, 2013 Author Share Posted March 25, 2013 I wonder if this is happening because you didn't give yourself the time to heal, before getting into another relationship? yes, my ex was a bit pulling me away, and my bf didn't know that I wasn't single so we're getting close and I told him about this but he never tried to make me break up, I did. when he knows I broke up he said he falls in love with me and I'm willing to look forward with him now. I just feel I keep a secret from him (that I don't tell him I checked my ex's twitter) or what do you think? should I or it's supposed to be just my deal for myself? Link to comment
hazelwut Posted March 25, 2013 Author Share Posted March 25, 2013 You only checked once and that's ok. It's not cheating. If it becomes a habit or an obsession then it may become a problem. You're allowed to think of your ex and wonder. I didn't feel like it was a habit, because as I wrote that it was just sometimes when my friend tweeting with him and it showed up in my timeline, so I checked him too. but I have stopped, AND I have no feelings no more. Link to comment
hazelwut Posted March 26, 2013 Author Share Posted March 26, 2013 in my point of view , you should stop checking your ex bf's twitter , or it will be a habit probably (it's my own experience). And do not tell your current bf. just stop it . I do. Thanks for helping me thinking Link to comment
hazelwut Posted March 26, 2013 Author Share Posted March 26, 2013 Yup, what kaly said. Thank you Link to comment
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