Rockyr87 Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Okay..so 7 months ago I transferred back to the grocery store I started working at out of high school. The management is all new and lately I've felt like the girl who's right under my boss is flirting with me. Whenever she's talking to the service managers she always makes eye contact with me. If she does it to anyone else, I haven't seen it. It just seems like it's every time I see her. Plus she'll usually come through my line to buy stuff and it seems like she flirts with me there too. Anytime I ask her anything or talk to her about something these kinda off topic bits get into the conversation. Plus I kinda get the impression that she gives me special consideration or something. Like if I wanted more hours she'll just give them to me. Won't even tell me to ask around or check the board or whatever. When I first started working with her she thought I was real young and when I told her that I wasn't that's when I kinda started to notice these things. Am I looking too much into things? Link to comment
oAllElseFailo Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 Well isn't it pretty obvious? I'm sure she likes you - especially if she started doing more around you after you told her your age. What's the issue? Does it bother you or something? Link to comment
TheRawTruth Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 She has an interest in you. May even just be SEXUAL. Either way, what's the problem? Is she ugly? Do you have a girlfriend or somethin? Why are you acting like a scared little kid because the chick looks at you? Hell, JUMP on it! Link to comment
Romanticism Posted March 14, 2013 Share Posted March 14, 2013 She has an interest in you. May even just be SEXUAL. Either way, what's the problem? Is she ugly? Do you have a girlfriend or somethin? Why are you acting like a scared little kid because the chick looks at you? Hell, JUMP on it! My exact thoughts. It cracks me up with some dudes get all sentimental before the feelings even get involved. She obviously likes you, whether or not something will come from that is up to you (it always is). Link to comment
Rockyr87 Posted March 14, 2013 Author Share Posted March 14, 2013 Hahaha some of these responses made me laugh (in a good way). I'm not scared or anything like that. It just seems to happen a lot and I was just looking for some input. I haven't done anything about it yet cause I'm just naturally shy and I'm not really sure what to do. Her old boss is the head honcho at this store and I don't want any bs to ensue for anyone. Link to comment
Rockyr87 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 What should I do though? I'm attracted to her, but like I said..I don't want anything crazy to happen to anyone Link to comment
willdation Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Yea I know what you mean..I once had a German professor who invited me out for drinks with her, whispered in my ear while writing a test that I could cheat (Im not saying I did lol) and even one time brought her laptop over to me at lunch and showed me that she was watching porn on it... Anyway....I would just keep on doing a good job at work and things should go really well. She obviously thinks you are doing a good job at work and maybe that is why too she is offering more shifts etc... If you really want to get to know her, then you can maybe try and organize a get together with your colleagues and maybe go to a restaurant after work and unwind with a few drinks as well. That should give you extra points for team-building skills.... Link to comment
abitbroken Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 She is a coworker and not only that, she is in a supervisory position. I would leave this alone due to the implications of dating someone at work. Know what the work policies are for dating. I would just take her interest as she thinks you are doing a good job and a nice guy. Don't jump to conclusions yet, but you already have. Link to comment
Rockyr87 Posted March 15, 2013 Author Share Posted March 15, 2013 I haven't jumped to any conclusions about anything. The whole reason I posted was to see if what I was thinking was right or not. I'm kinda torn between the whole "she's in a management position and I should leave it alone" thing and the special consideration I feel like I'm getting from her. Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 She has an interest in you. May even just be SEXUAL. Either way, what's the problem? Is she ugly? Do you have a girlfriend or somethin? Why are you acting like a scared little kid because the chick looks at you? Hell, JUMP on it! The problem is this pesky little thing called learning to interact well with others in a work environment. Do NOT jump on it. The woman is in a supervisory position. You are working under her direction. Any interactions with female work colleagues should be professional and completely non-romantic. The world is full of wonderful available women. I think it would behove you to begin a practice of viewing the women you work with as "off limits". Not only will that prevent any future drama but it will force you raise your game in the way you meet women romantically. Lazy guys are the ones the scam on the women they work with. Even if she is sending signals, you need to protect yourself at work. Do not fish of the end of the company pier. Keep a clear separation between your work life and your romantic life. If you feel that she is giving you special treatment, you need to back off on that as well. Link to comment
HeatherB Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 Enjoy your advantage. Keep up the friendliness. To prevent jealousy, make sure to pass on to your coworkers some of the benefits you get from being teacher's pet. Use your powers to help others. But don't poo where you eat. And especially don't poo on the desk of someone higher up than you. In other words, smiling and mild flirting are fine, but no touching. Not worth the aftermath if something went wrong. Link to comment
Klokwurk Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 I think you should pursue it. I mean, if it blows up, it's just a job in a grocery store. This might be irresponsible of me to suggest. Link to comment
Klokwurk Posted March 15, 2013 Share Posted March 15, 2013 HeatherB brings up some good points. Link to comment
Rockyr87 Posted March 16, 2013 Author Share Posted March 16, 2013 If I had a career and I didn't need this job anymore I would happily do that, Klokwurk Link to comment
TheRawTruth Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 This isn't necessarily a good idea either. You don't know what type of woman she is. If she's the type to cause problems at work for him after a breakup or something going wrong, isn't it feasible that she's ALSO the type to cause a problem for him if he says "Look, I don't like you giving me special treatment at work. I want to keep things professional." ? Depending on her personality, she could see that as a form of rejection and try to get him fired. If anything, he should play it off like he doesn't notice. That or MILDLY flirt (assuming he doesn't want to start anything with her). Link to comment
bluewaters Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Do not fish of the end of the company pier. I this advice! Link to comment
abitbroken Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I think you should pursue it. I mean, if it blows up, it's just a job in a grocery store. This might be irresponsible of me to suggest. Nowadays, that reference and performance opinion from the grocery store is gold. If you are well regarded in your job, you have a better chance at getting your next one. And some people make careers out of grocery stores. They move on to management, senior buyers, human resources, etc, Link to comment
Rockyr87 Posted March 21, 2013 Author Share Posted March 21, 2013 It seems like she's kinda stopped. It's weird Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted March 21, 2013 Share Posted March 21, 2013 Get used to this kind of thing. People - all kinds of people, in all kinds of positions - are biased. Biased as hell. Sometimes you are on the crap end of their stick, sometimes they decide they like you. Either way, it's just bias, and it's important to learn how to think beyond that. If that makes sense? To not let it influence your behaviors or what you are willing to do. What really matters is that you decide for yourself who you are, what you are about, and how you are going to define yourself when it comes to your work/career. Only you can decide - no one else, no matter what they waggle or bribe or threaten you with. Link to comment
Klokwurk Posted March 22, 2013 Share Posted March 22, 2013 Good. Now focus on your work and be cool. Link to comment
unicornrocks Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 haha go for it..this is your career right? Its a cool job right out of High school.. Ask her on a date as friends..if she accepts great..if she says no well no problem bc it will still make her day a nice handsom young man asked her out..jump on it like that other guy said LOL Link to comment
Rockyr87 Posted March 25, 2013 Author Share Posted March 25, 2013 Career? No. I'm trying to find a salary job that goes with what I went to college for. This is a job that pays the bills. Link to comment
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