Should I ask her questions?

[mike2414]

Met this girl just over a month ago and we really conected well. She said she wanted to date me and I wanted to date her so three weeks in I ask her out and she said yes, but two days after she said she wasnt ready to date yet cause it was too soon and she just got out of a relationship. She doesnt have feelings or talks to her ex. She said she can see us dating in the future but since she said she want ready to date her texting has been different, like she stopped calling me babe or sweetie and she doesnt send cute texts anymore, so should I be worried? We just hungout this week and it went well, we hold hands and kissed. I think things will work out but get worried cause of my past of getting hurt. Should I ask her why her texting has changed? Should I ask questions about our future? Or should I let it just play out?

[Coily]

My gut is to play it out, and ask benign questions about her and her emotions. You are both having some degree of intimacy, so you don't have to panic on that front.

 

She could be confused, or worried about getting into a relationship (ie rebound). Stay the course for now and don't change your behavior until you get other signs of being friend zoned.

[happyfrank]

Just let it play out. She already told you she doesn't want to be in a relationship. No reason to push it. That will only make her want to distance herself from you. No reason for her to send text that are romantic.

[DN]

Let her alone and go find someone else. She used you to validate that she is still attractive and you really don't want to be involved with someone who uses people.

[oldenoughtoknow]

^^ Agree. She said she didn't want to date yet, after having a date with you. That could mean she isn't ready to date yet. Or, that could mean after your date she discovered she isn't interested in dating you and is trying to let you down easily. I would find someone else to date.