Girl left me 3 weeks ago, whats in store for me?

[Daro1210]

Hey whats up,

I've been reading these post after my GF left me and i definitely can relate to alot of these peoples situations so i telling my story for any advice/opinions. First all I"m 27 and my ex-grf was 19, we had been together for 1yr and 4 mos. From when we first met the relationship moved very fast, she bascially started living with me after like a month of going out. Our realionship had good times but for some reason she had issues with trust because i had stupidly lied to her a couple times (never do that to a women) about "how you doing conversations with an ex". But after i realized how much i loved her i cut off all communication with my ex just to satisfy my her but she never could get over it. I tried everything to make her believe me but she was always unsure and cause fights between us. About 2 mos ago she left me once saying she couldn't take the fighting anymore so she moved out for about a month but throughout the month we still had open lines of communication and worked things out so she moved back in. Everything seemed fined i did everything i could to make her understand that i loved her with all me heart and that she was the one for me, then about 2 weeks she dropped the bomb on my heart. One day when i was at work I tried calling her, no answer, so i thought ok she must be busy. Called throughtout the day still nothing so then i knew something was wrong, finally i get home and all her stuff was gone with keys and a letter. I was devasted because just that morning she kissed me and told me she loved me. How can a person that swore they loved you do something so heartless?

So for about a week i would try to call her and she would just tell me she didn't want to talk and that she won't take me back. No words to give me any hope, just brief n simple. So since then i have realized that i cant force her to love me but my mind is always on her. I've taking the road of not pressuring her and have been trying to just be nice to her but its not really doing nothing. I keep gettting nothing from her. She acts as if our time together was nothing, its so hard to believe. So what do i do? How can i convince her that my love is true and make her re-discover her love for me. Do i just leave her alone or attempt to talk her in anyway i can, so she won't forget about me. Any advice or opinons would help

thanks.

[SwingFox]

Hi Daro,

 

First of all welcome to eNotalone.com and thank you for coming to us for seeking advice. I am sorry to hear what happened to you. I understand that this young woman moved out again, without a real reason.

 

I am curious if she gave you a reason afterwards anyways. What happened is really strange. I am somewhat speculating right now, but could it be possible that she is talking to/seeing someone else?

 

As for my advice to you: I have read your post a couple of times, but from what I have read, I really don't see any opening for you and her to get back together again. Sure, it might happen, but this young woman seems to be very determined in her decision. My suggestion is thereforeeeeeee to start a healing process and try to put your feelings for her aside. I understand this will be very hard, but time will eventually heal your wounds.

 

I hope that this helps you on your way and I wish you strength and luck in your near future.

 

~ SwingFox ~

[Daro1210]

Well about 2 days after we broke up, she said she couldn't get over my lies and the fighting. Also after we broke up i read an e-mail she sent to a friend talking about how she fell in love with a ex bf that she visited when i was working. When i confronted her about it she lied to me and hung up. Isn't it ironic how she made a big deal about my "friendly" conversations with my ex when she went and fell in love with her ex. Half of me accepts the break up but sometimes i miss her and go crazy. I guess for now i'm going to use the leave it alone approach and see what the future holds for me.