She doesn't know if she loves me

[calodoso]

I have been going out with a girl for about two months now. We are good friends, there is a lot of chemistry, and we have a lot of fun and all of those great things. In other words, we have a great connection and we can't keep our hands of each other. I know that she likes me and that she likes being with me. I can see her eyes lighting up when she sees me, and she always has a smile for me and she is great with me. Everything seems right, and I'm crazy about her, I feel strong emotions towards her and I feel that I am totally in love with her. She told me she wants to spend more time with me, meet her family and all that kind of stuff. My only frustration is that she doesn't really express he feelings for me. She is very sweet and all that but she doesn't really tell me how she feels. I asked her if she loved me, she stayed quiet for about a minute and the she said she didn't know. Then I told her that I did love her, and she seemed socked and happy, and then stared at me for about two minutes without saying a word. I could see the light in her eyes. I feel that with such connection that we have she should be on my same page, but I'm confused, I don't know if she loves me. She is only 22 and has never had a strong and passionate relationship like this. She does not have much experience in a mature relationship and I think that she might be afraid. Is it too soon for her to know if she loves me or not? Or she only likes hanging out with me? Why can't she tell express her emotions with me, I'm I wasting my time?

[Coyote_the_trickster]

maybe she just has a hard time expressing how she truly feels, have you told her how you feel? have you said I love you? and if so what happen when you said it?if not why are you making a big deal if she doesn't?

 

maybe because she hasn't had a relationship like this maybe its hard for her to know what she feels.take it slow you don't wantto ruin what could be a great thing...

[S1asher6]

I think it's easy to decide what love is when overcome by a seeming emotion of love. But you seem so sure what you feel is love. And by your definition of love, it may just be. You've decided that you love her. Now let her decide. Love is a waste of time, sometimes.

[unluckyguy]

Hi There, I would say just hang in there. She must like you or she wouldn't want to be around. I have been through the same situation, and I have found that you just need to take it slowly one step at a time. Hope this makes sense!

[amp1345]

I would also say hang in there. You should love her without expecting it back. She is obviously crazy about you probably even feels the exact same things that you are feeling. Maybe she doesn't feel the need to rush things because she knows she loves you, or she's playing it hard. I don't think that love is a waste of time. If she starts to pull away from you things get weird, then that's a bad sign. Until then enjoy the time you have with her and make sure she still know you love her not only by telling her but by showing her.

Ash

[ShuShu Fontana]

Sometimes it just takes longer for one person than the other.

 

After two months my ex told me he was in love with me. That came out of left field and it shocked me, though a pleasant shock. I told him I wasn't there yet and I stressed "yet" and that I was going down the road toward love. It took me another 2 months before love smacked me upside the head.

 

He told me he was glad that I hadn't just obligitorily said "I love you" back to him. He wanted me to say it only when I felt it. I could feel he wanted to say those words to me very much over those two months but he waited for me. And those feelings came.

 

Patience is the devil incarnate. But stick with it and it will pay off.