bananashake Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 As I was walking out of Macy's and into the mall, I heard, "Banana.....Hey.... Banana". I was like, "Oh...hey". He apologized for how he treated me. He said he knows he really hurt me. And that he knows he needs to quit hurting people. He said he loves me, but he doesn't feel a connection to me. He said he WANTS to feel a connection to me. He said I was the best gf in all areas and he wants me in his life, but he just doesn't have that connection to me. I began to get teary and said I had to go. As I was walking away, he pulled me in for a kiss. Arrrgh. I don't get this whole "I love you, but I don't love you" deal. He's said this before. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Ugh, he told he doesn't have a connection to you but then kisses you? This guy is a really jerk to play with your emotions like that. Let this loser go. Link to comment
bananashake Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 yea, I know. He doesn't have a connection, but shoved his tongue down my throat. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 You should be PO'ed not sad over this guy. Recognize your worth and know you deserve better. Link to comment
bananashake Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 haha. funny. what self worth? my self esteem is GONE after this relationship. No....really. I used to be so graceful. Now I'm just a ball of nerves. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Ugh. He doesn't feel a "connection?" Time to let him go!! What's the point? Link to comment
sandrawg Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 YARR! Sorry. This sounds all too familiar. My ex told me he was falling in love with me, then 3 weeks later dumped me saying "the feelings just aren't there" and "we'd be better of as FRIENDS." Never mind that we never WERE "just friends" and he knows I'm in love with him. JERK. I wish I had answers for you, but if I had answers for you, I'd probably have them for me. Your ex and mine sound like they're cut from the same stupid confused cloth. As I was walking out of Macy's and into the mall, I heard, "Banana.....Hey.... Banana". I was like, "Oh...hey". He apologized for how he treated me. He said he knows he really hurt me. And that he knows he needs to quit hurting people. He said he loves me, but he doesn't feel a connection to me. He said he WANTS to feel a connection to me. He said I was the best gf in all areas and he wants me in his life, but he just doesn't have that connection to me. I began to get teary and said I had to go. As I was walking away, he pulled me in for a kiss. Arrrgh. I don't get this whole "I love you, but I don't love you" deal. He's said this before. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 That's the problem with a lot of people. For me I was sad maybe the first week or 2 but then I got angry and knew I deserved better because I'm awesome. If nothing else, don't go back to this guy he is playing your emotions like a fiddle. Link to comment
sandrawg Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Don't let his stupid behavior make you feel bad about yourself, honey. I've had so many people tell me what an idiot my ex is for walking away..you realize it's HIM and not YOU, right?? haha. funny. what self worth? my self esteem is GONE after this relationship. No....really. I used to be so graceful. Now I'm just a ball of nerves. Link to comment
sandrawg Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Amen!!! I keep hearing all my guy friends complain about their gfs, and I'm like "I'm so NOT like any of these crazy women, yet my bf leaves me." I was a pretty d*mn awesome gf. He's an idiot. We need to keep telling ourselves that. That's the problem with a lot of people. For me I was sad maybe the first week or 2 but then I got angry and knew I deserved better because I'm awesome. If nothing else, don't go back to this guy he is playing your emotions like a fiddle. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 We need more women with confidence and less insecurity! Feel free to PM me if you need a dose of it! Link to comment
bananashake Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 I KNOW!!! All of my coworkers are women and we all share stories about our love life. They are nuts!! Yet, they have a BF that sticks by their side. It makes me wonder.... * * * is wrong with me. Link to comment
Huntress0527 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Banana before I met my husband I truly thought I was the type that couldn't be in a relationship. They all angered or irritated me alot, lol. I was always the independent type; never needed a man etc. I can assure you nothing is wrong with you; you just haven't found the right guy for you yet. He'll come along. Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 The nerve of him to call you banana in a public mall! And then kiss you after he telling you there's no chemistry! Jerk! Link to comment
bananashake Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 lol. he didn't actually say Banana. He said my real name. Banana is my name here, so I used it in lieu of my name. heheheh. Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 lol. he didn't actually say Banana. He said my real name. Banana is my name here, so I used it in lieu of my name. heheheh. Oh ok.. Well if he called you banana in public he deserves a swift kick to his banana. Link to comment
mhowe Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I KNOW!!! All of my coworkers are women and we all share stories about our love life. They are nuts!! Yet, they have a BF that sticks by their side. It makes me wonder.... * * * is wrong with me. Your problem is you are making this about what is wrong with you! It is what is wrong with your ex. Link to comment
sandrawg Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Who knows what their situation is, tho. They could be fighting all the time at home behind closed doors and just talking up their bfs for the other women, to brag. My ex said to me "at least I'm walking away from this knowing I can find a sane, beautiful woman to love me." Bully for him. What do I get, walking away from this? The feeling that I keep attracting a&&h(oles! I wanted to SLAP him. A lot of men who date crazy women are codependent. Bleck. I know how you feel, tho. I feel like sometime down the road my ex may realize what he lost, but it'll be too late. I KNOW!!! All of my coworkers are women and we all share stories about our love life. They are nuts!! Yet, they have a BF that sticks by their side. It makes me wonder.... * * * is wrong with me. Link to comment
bananashake Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 thank u!! he always made me feel like i was overly emotional and inadequate. his assessment of me kinda did a number to my self worth. Link to comment
WilliamBlake Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 I am convinced the people who leave a relationship like this have many issues. My ex and I had incredible chemistry and got along great. The romance was through the roof and we had many shared values. Then one day, out of the blue and over the phone, he says his feelings had changed and he wanted to break up. This says more about him than it does me, just as your situation does. I think it is too bad there are people out there with all this emotional baggage who for some reason are not capable of making a relationship work. It is frustrating, especially when you fall in love with them and are taken in by all their actions and words. Link to comment
leon1311 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Banana, you are far more better than him!!! You are capable of loving someone, he is a * * * * * who like to play games with your emotions. Don't ever let him kiss you. Don't ever let him touch you. He doesn't deserve you and your love. Just take back your love, pride, hapiness, hugs, kisses and everything he took away form you. I mean really, close your eyes, picture him and take everything back. Link to comment
Voodoodoll Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 the reason he doesn;t have this 'connection' with you is because there is no chase for him, he knows your hooked on him, and he can have you when he wants you..... I'm telling you if you ignored this piece of filth and walked away and put your hand up to his face to shut hiim the hell up he'd be thinking 'oh crappers she doesn't care about me anymore' and then let the chase begin, but boys like this never learn, they just keep doing it and doing it over and over, its a vicious circle, get out now while ya can Link to comment
bananashake Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 actually, he changed his number after we broke up. Last night was the first time I've seen or talked to him since the BU 8 weeks ago. Link to comment
JA0371 Posted January 31, 2012 Share Posted January 31, 2012 Oh so he didn't even give you his new number but shoved his tongue down your throat? Classy..... Link to comment
bananashake Posted January 31, 2012 Author Share Posted January 31, 2012 JA0371, yep. I'm bound and determined to get over him now. I'm starting to realize that he has a lot of issues. The one thing I need to do is exercise. However, I can't bring myself to do it becasue for the past 8 + weeks, I've been so down over this guy!! And to make matters worse, I've easily gained 15 pounds since November because of emotional eating and not exercising - just an occasional non brisk walk. Ugggggh; Link to comment
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