ryan2600 Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 No need to get too personal. Thought this might be helpful for all of us going through this, so we can get a picture of what everyone is going through. Strength and support in number helps! (copy and paste in your info) You (Screenname) - Ryan2600 Total relationship length - 4 yr Who initiated the breakup - She did Weeks since breakup - 1 Have you or her broke NC since the split - me no , her not sure (number blocked on phone) Your ultimate goal? - Kinda ? at this point. Would love to be with her but I do not think she shares the same feelings anymore. Will reassess after 30 days or so. Link to comment
flower86 Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 You (Screenname)- flower86 Total relationship length- 3 yr Who initiated the breakup- He did but we kind of agreed because of distance and age difference (he is younger) Weeks since breakup- 4 Have you or her broke NC since the split- both for 2 weeks after the breakup, but i went NC after 2 weeks and just disappeared.Could not deal with the contact. Your ultimate goal? Would also love to be with him, miss him terribly but at this point i think the best for both of us is to move on. I am hoping we can be together in the future though, when the time is right. Need to stick to no contact, in order to move on. Link to comment
purpleberry Posted December 1, 2011 Share Posted December 1, 2011 You (Screenname) - purpleberry Total relationship length - 6 yr Who initiated the breakup - He did Weeks since breakup - 3 months Have you or her broke NC since the split - first two weeks I broke NC twice to try to salvage the relationship, after that I have been NC until now (2 months!) Your ultimate goal? - I miss the relationship. But he has moved on since BU I do not think there is any chance left. I am moving on. In the future if we meet again (highly unlikely as we live in different continents), maybe we will talk. Link to comment
Hope2011 Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 You (Screenname)- Hope2011 Total relationship length- 3 years Who initiated the breakup- She did Weeks since breakup- Almost three months Have you or her broke NC since the split- I initiated NC one month ago, she broke it to ask a question about personal things I have, photos and videos of us, after that I have not heard back from her again. Your ultimate goal? My ultimate goal is to have her back in my life and treat her much better. I want to be happy but I know I can not be friends with her right now. I was naive and immature when I was with her which created the mean side to come out and hurt her. My goal is to grow and be happy again. I do love her and long for her to reconnect back into my life, but I must move on before I ever can get her again. Link to comment
Penseur Posted December 23, 2011 Share Posted December 23, 2011 You (Screenname) - Penseur Total relationship length - 6 months Who initiated the breakup - I did officially, but she was checked out a couple of weeks prior. Weeks since breakup - 25 weeks -- yeah, I know. Have you or her broke NC since the split? Continually. Mainly by her via text and email, and also in person. I am guilty of this too. This is largely because we have to see each other a minimum of 4 times per week (small school). Now that we are on winter break, I have set up boundaries, and we are not to have contact until forced when school resumes (and even then hopefully more NC). Your ultimate goal? I honestly don't know. A large part of me definitely wants her back; that cannot be denied. I have reached out in a concrete fashion 2 times over the last 6 months, both of which resulted in "rejection." So another large part of me just wants to move on. Link to comment
AnnaN Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - AnnaN Total relationship length - 4 years Who initiated the break up - he did Weeks since the break up - 8 weeks today Have you or him broke NC since the split? - Twice, once a few days after BU, a short, simple how are you doing convo (hoping he had changed his mind), the second, I texted him a happy birthday message, he called me back to thank me, we talked for a couple of minutes, all general and pointless for me. Your ultimate goal? - I am not sure, a large part of me wants him back but I know nothing would be as it used to be. I really think that now that I have learnt he is a totally different person, if I want him back, it may be because I am afraid that I won't find anyone else like him (like he was during our relationship). But I want to try, in order to know that at least I did fight for what I wanted. Link to comment
cbzfmoc Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - cbzfmoc Total relationship length - almost 2 yr Who initiated the breakup - He did Weeks since breakup - 2.5 weeks Have you or her broke NC since the split - yes, I broke it twice. first time i texted him if he wanted his stuff back (he responded). second time i sent an apology email (no response) Your ultimate goal? - Not sure. Would like to get back with him but probably won't happen. I would love to be friends with him since we were best friends before the relationship but that too is uncertain as we all know how post-break-up friendships usually work (as in they don't) Link to comment
AinsleyAdams Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - AinsleyAdams Total relationship length - 4.5 years Who initiated the breakup - Well.... if I didn't go "something isn't right" I don't know how long he would have strung me along Weeks since breakup - 4.5 days. Have you or her broke NC since the split - He has - Me, I'm working on it. Your ultimate goal? - Would love to talk with him more, see what truly went wrong (I feel he is withholding, something BIGGER) - I would love to rekindle what seemed so perfect. Im with cbzfmoc - I'd like to be friends at least... one day?? Link to comment
AinsleyAdams Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 I read that wrong - He hasn't broken NC - ONLY ME... I'm weak. Link to comment
ChellyV Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - Chellyv Total relationship length - 2 years almost Who initiated the breakup - he did Weeks since breakup - 7 weeks Have you or her broke NC since the split - I did only to try and collect money owed. Not worth the pain of restoring contact. Walked away without the $. I am ok right now, I miss him sporadically, but mostly realistic that it will just not work out. We both have different goals and expectations in a relationship. Link to comment
Tom1990 Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - Scottman2020 Total relationship length - 3 months Who initiated the breakup - She did Weeks since breakup - 4 Have you or her broke NC since the split - 1 week NC at the start, then I broke it, and we went light contact for a couple weeks. Floundering between LC and NIC right now, mostly because we work together in a fairly social environment. Link to comment
ewr Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - ewr Total relationship length - 15 months Who initiated the breakup - Her Weeks since breakup - 5 Have you or her broke NC since the split - NO Your ultimate goal? - Stop thinking about her, stop idealizing our relationship, see her for the cheating user she really is, find myself and be happy with me, so I don't end up here again. Link to comment
smitty9999 Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - smitty9999 Total relationship length - 20 yr Who initiated the breakup - She did Weeks since breakup - 5 but also previouse 3 years Have you or her broke NC since the split - no/yes? Your ultimate goal? - it finally ended tonight. She wants to move on. Too much water under the bridge to recover Link to comment
deeplongbreath Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - Ryan2600 Total relationship length - 2,5 yr Who initiated the breakup - He did Weeks since breakup - 49 (I think) Have you or her broke NC since the split - I did, many times. He did only once. Your ultimate goal? - Can't quite call it a goal, I only wish he would get counselling or something and love himself better. Maybe then we could be together again, but there's no way I want the old relationship back - too unhealthy. Link to comment
Tom1990 Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - Scottman2020 Total relationship length - 3 months Who initiated the breakup - She did Weeks since breakup - 4 Have you or her broke NC since the split - 1 week NC at the start, then I broke it, and we went light contact for a couple weeks. Floundering between LC and NIC right now, mostly because we work together in a fairly social environment. Forgot my goal: Be friends at least similar to how we were before; chatting, IMing, gaming together. Dear God, I hope that's possible now, all things considered.... Link to comment
melanie6929 Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You (Screenname) - Melanie6929 Total relationship length - Almost 4 yrs Who initiated the breakup - It was kinda mutual but he made it official. Weeks since breakup - 4 weeks Have you or her broke NC since the split - Yes. We had to live together for about a week. Then, I broke NC a couple times by text and he did once. Nothing good came out of it but realizing that we shouldn't talk or be friends right now. Your ultimate goal? - Get over him. I don't wanna think about the possibility of us being together unless he magically realizes what he did wrong and fixes himself. I doubt that would happen though. I wouldn't mind being friends later on down the road, only if my feelings for him disappeared. Link to comment
sweety39 Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 you.sweety39 total relationship length 2 years Who initiated the break up me (but he doesnt want to talk abt our future together ) weeks since break up 2 .5 have you broken NC I did once and got emotional on the phone and tried to tell him how bad i feel a week ago and since then NC ultimate goal I still have a hope but I want to move on and find someone who is not selfish like him Link to comment
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