Fela Kuti Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Hello, She broke up with me 3 months ago. There was no big problem, only a case of decreased interest because I was clingy (she didn't say this but I just know). She said she wanted to remain friends. I said that it would take time and I'd rather we not talk for some time. So I NC'd her. I couldn't help it but I checked her social media updates from time to time. I could tell that she'd been missing me, even a month after our breakup. Then I reinitiated contact, thinking maybe there's a chance she might reconsider her decision. Also because I missed her. So here we are, 3 weeks later and we've been having great convos on text/IM every 2 days or so, with some light flirting from both sides. I also notice good signs like she wouldn't sign off the messenger before I do, reviving dying convos, etc. One thing that I need to know is if she does this because she only craves for attention/enjoys the time with me before someone comes along, or actually because she still has feelings for me. But there's also warning signs like it's me who initiates contact more often. But she's kind of a proud girl after all. I don't know how to act right now. If she's leading me on, then I'm sure as hell won't continue contacting her. But if she still wants me, I don't want her to think that it's me who has moved on and leading her on by contacting (maybe this is why she rarely contacts me first?).Do you thibk it's ok if I ask her, "what's your assumption of me? Do you think I've moved on and contact you just as a friend, or do you think I still have feelings for you?" then I'll take it from there. Or something like "are we setting up for another heartbreak?" Thanks a lot. Link to comment
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