Iggles Posted November 18, 2011 Share Posted November 18, 2011 I'm trying to be patient, and wait to hear back from this guy I've been seeing, but I'm getting frustrated. Here's some background on my situation... I met a guy online last month. So far we've been on four dates. The first three he paid. The last one I made dinner. We discussed a fifth date before the night was over, with him offering to cook, and other plans to hang out in the future. I had dental surgery last week, so we weren't sure when we'd be able to hang out again. I hoped to meet up with him this week during his days off (he doesn't work 9-5) but he's been sick. Now to the crux of the issue I'm having... Since meeting in person communication has been pretty consistent. Text is our main method of contact in between dates and I would hear from him almost daily. However, not so much this week. I get anxious when communication with a guy starts to slow down, because I've been subject to guys "fading away" in the past and it sucks! We last texted Tuesday night. I sent him a message when I got home from work and didn't hear back. Hours later, I texted him goodnight and he quickly wrote back, apologizing and explaining he took a nap. I figured all was well, but now it's Thursday evening and still no word from him. Since I reached out to him the last time, I'm waiting for him to initiate contact. My reasoning is, I don't want to appear clingy. In my experience, matching the level of interest shown works best, so I approach it like tennis - you hit the ball over the net and then wait for the other person to hit back. However, I hate waiting, or more specifically not knowing if he's simply busy with work and not feeling well OR if the real reason I haven't heard from him is that he's losing interest. Right now I feel the ball is in his court and for now it's best to do nothing. But part of me wonders if he thinks I'm not interested because I've been "quiet" (i.e., not texting him). It's maddening! I was thinking if I don't hear from him in a few hours, sending him a text tonight but the idea doesn't sit right with me. I don't want to "chase" him. What do you guys think? Should I give it more time? Or should I reach out again? Link to comment
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