champagne69 Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I've been with my boyfriend for eleven months today, we're both 18, and both gave each other our virginities a month ago. He's been busy finishing school so we haven't had that many chances to be alone. And I have a couple of things I'd like advice with! Firstly, I came on here for advice with the pain upon having sex, I'm a very small girl and was extremely tight, I know it's supposed to hurt the first few times, but we've had sex five times now and the pain is still quite intolerable at initial penetration, on the weekend it was just as bad if not more painful than the first. We have used foreplay and plently of lubrification every time so that's not a problem. I don't think that it's so much my 'tightness' anymore but more so my muscles clenching rather than relaxing. It still feels like he is tearing muscles open at the beginning, but once I get really into it and I know I'm relax down there - it no longer hurts and he can easily glide in and out of me. I was just a little confused my muscles hurt afterwards on the weekend but they didn't even hurt after the very first time. He finishes school this week and then we will have all the opportunities in the world to enjoy our physical relationship - so I'm curious and hoping it will become non painful the more frequent we do it, and upon doing it more often I should learn to relax more. I'm just scared I'm going to be one of those few whom sex is always uncomfortable/painful - I enjoy it very much just the initial penetration is unbearable. Secondly, is it possible that the condom can be too tight for the mans penis? My boyfriend I suppose is average size, it's perfect for me, but we've been using just the ordinary sized condoms and upon having sex he has found that he is on the edge of orgasm nearly the whole time and then it's like he's going to but it just doesn't happen. He has suggested that it's the condom - he says it has left a red ring mark around his shaft and has felt awfully too tight and I'm wondering can this affect ability to orgasm? We also have had sex for approx 30mins everytime except on the weekend it went for an hour so I can imagine length of time he is wearing it if it is too tight could potentially affect what's going on. Last problem, I knew it would take sometime to get comfortable and used to sex, we're both new to it so we're kind of just going along with it, doing what feels good and exploring new positions, however, we cannot physically get into doggy position, or him from behind at all. He is still scared of hurting me and I think he would have to still be nervous about it, but he usually lets me get us into position because some positions feel way too tight and uncomfortable for me - however I simply just do not know which angle or how to get into doggy - I feel stupid and he doesn't really know either so we have a giggle about it and move onto something we know we can do - but it just feels so silly that we can't get into doggy because it's one of the most popular positions. So please, advice? Link to comment
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