lavenderdove Posted October 15, 2011 Share Posted October 15, 2011 Your desire to cheat has nothing at all to do with your GF... it is all about you and your desire to have your cake and eat it too... she could be the most perfect person in the world, but if you are selfish and feel a sense of entitlement to sleep with other women and lie to your GF about it, then that is a character defect in your and not her. People who do this repeatedly rarely are able to stay faithful for long, with any woman no matter how strong your feelings for her. But you are naive in that most of the cheaters I know end up paying very dire consequences. What happens if you knock up a fling and end up with a child with a woman you don't particular care about, that you have to pay child support to for 18 years? Or your GF finds out, and gives you the heave ho, and only then do you realize how important she is to you. Or you break the hearts of your loved ones who lose respect for you. Or you pick up an STD that has long term consequences for yourself and your GF, and even a child if you pass HIV to it. Many cheaters think it is 'just a bit of fun' until they experience one of those consequences, and if you do it long enough, you most likely will. I think you need to take some time out and examine yourself and your motivation for cheating, and consider some counseling to discuss it with a professional. You probably should not be dating anyone seriously until you get to the bottom of this and find it within yourself to stay faithful, or else find a woman who believes in open relationships and doesn't care if you sleep with others and potential get an STD or knock another woman up. Link to comment
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