Oasiswater Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 Yeah, It's really only been a few days since the last breakup. But knowing everything that I know now, and seeing everything that she was doing... I kinda feel traumatized, in a sense. Every time I see a naked girl online that looks slightly like her, I always have to double check and make sure that it isn't her. I really do expect the worst from her. She has completely lost all self respect. I don't know why it bothers me, and I know I need to get the point where it shouldn't... but I can't help but feel like, this is why she lost interest in me. To pursue getting naked on the internet and acting like a sl*t. I try my best to forget her and stop thinking about her, but I no longer reminisce about the past. If anything, my thoughts of her are about what she's up to now, and how she's just throwing her life away. She always used to be such a great girl with a huge heart, willing to volunteer, wanted to build a shelter to help lost animals, etc... She always influenced ME to be more sympathetic to those around me and care a little bit more. Now she gets a rise out of pretending to be some kind of wannabe porn-star. It does make me sad. Yesterday, I had to get on her facebook profile to block her (You need to wait 48 hours after unblocking someone to reblock them). And her profile picture had changed, and I swear I felt like I saw a ghost. I felt a huge shock go through my entire body. I don't know what's wrong with me, and from my past experience I do know it gets better. But god this sucks. I know it's probably unlikely, but can anyone relate? Link to comment
wicked6018 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 you say it's been a few days since the LAST breakup...i assume you've been through many breakups with this girl? if so, then it's definitely time to make this the VERY LAST breakup....breaking up over and over again is so painful. I know it is so hard when the person used to be so good, and even influence you in a good way, then they change to someone you can't even recognize. but that is life, people change. and you can't change them back. in my experience, once people change for the worst, you can't do anything about it. yes, many many people on this forum can relate to what you are going through! hang in there! Link to comment
Oasiswater Posted July 24, 2011 Author Share Posted July 24, 2011 you say it's been a few days since the LAST breakup...i assume you've been through many breakups with this girl? if so, then it's definitely time to make this the VERY LAST breakup....breaking up over and over again is so painful. I know it is so hard when the person used to be so good, and even influence you in a good way, then they change to someone you can't even recognize. but that is life, people change. and you can't change them back. in my experience, once people change for the worst, you can't do anything about it. yes, many many people on this forum can relate to what you are going through! hang in there! Thanks, and yeah... Definitely last breakup. There have been 4-5 breakups within the last year, and after seeing everything I've seen, this is definitely the last one. I detail it a lot more in my other threads, but I'm over it now. I realized that I've been alone the entire time, and her sending me 2-3 emails doesn't magically make my day better or anything. The feeling I got after seeing her profile picture change on FB was definitely the worst of all. It still lingers too, that's the awful part. Link to comment
wicked6018 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 i'm glad to hear that this is it, because you don't deserve that. it's just going to take time. i know that doesn't help, but that's the truth. in the end, you will be a stronger person. Link to comment
water Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 My ex didn't pursue porn, but she did send naked pics to many people, including one of my best friends. Like hardcore vag pics and stuff. She also left me b/c she is "enjoying hooking up with other people." So your story is not something we can't relate to. It sucks, it hurts, but you have to realize that they are doing this to/for themselves b/c they are selfish, shallow people who desperately crave attention in all the wrong places. As hard as it is not to, try not to take it personally. Link to comment
magnoliatree Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Nothing is wrong with you!! Most people would feel exactly the same way, seriously. Your situation is pretty extreme and you are handling it so well, you should be really proud of yourself. You deserve so much better and now you are free to find it. Link to comment
Oasiswater Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 My ex didn't pursue porn, but she did send naked pics to many people, including one of my best friends. Like hardcore vag pics and stuff. She also left me b/c she is "enjoying hooking up with other people." So your story is not something we can't relate to. It sucks, it hurts, but you have to realize that they are doing this to/for themselves b/c they are selfish, shallow people who desperately crave attention in all the wrong places. As hard as it is not to, try not to take it personally. She didn't actually pursue porn lol, but I get where you're coming from. I'm just saying that I wouldn't expect any less from her. Thanks for all the responses guys, it helps to know that I'm not the only one who's ever gone through something like this. Link to comment
banal Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 I hear you. My ex broke up with me, when I got down to it, because she didn't want to be "attached" so that she could date and * * * * other guys. In her very-slight defense, she broke up with me before she cheated on me, although I do suspect she may have met someone at her new job. Well, this all made me feel like garbage for a little while, but now I couldn't care less what she does. It's her life, and if she wanted to throw away the love I gave her - and the great sex - for some random morons and their offerings of sloppy sex, that's her business. This was the woman who had given me such love and affection. I couldn't understand the transformation. I had taken to positing different theories - as wide-ranging as "she's not ready for a relationship" to "she has a personality disorder" - but now I don't care. It's not my job to figure it out. Link to comment
Oasiswater Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 I hear you. My ex broke up with me, when I got down to it, because she didn't want to be "attached" so that she could date and * * * * other guys. In her very-slight defense, she broke up with me before she cheated on me, although I do suspect she may have met someone at her new job. Well, this all made me feel like garbage for a little while, but now I couldn't care less what she does. It's her life, and if she wanted to throw away the love I gave her - and the great sex - for some random morons and their offerings of sloppy sex, that's her business. lol nice post dude. Just threw away the memory box we shared together. Gotta admit, this is a HUGE, BOLD move on my part.. because every other time we broke up I couldn't even imagine throwing it away. I always held hope that she'd come back, and we'd be happy with our memories together. It was comfort to me. Now? Full speed ahead. Link to comment
NeverGoingBack Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Well, this all made me feel like garbage for a little while, but now I couldn't care less what she does. It's her life, and if she wanted to throw away the love I gave her - and the great sex - for some random morons and their offerings of sloppy sex, that's her business. This was the woman who had given me such love and affection. I couldn't understand the transformation. I had taken to positing different theories - as wide-ranging as "she's not ready for a relationship" to "she has a personality disorder" - but now I don't care. It's not my job to figure it out. I got a lot from that. I'm approaching the same mindset. Y'know what really makes me feel * * * * ty? The thoughts of her with another guy. She would always say to me how she could never be with anyone else (because she never was), and that she'd always be with me, and I'd say the same...and now...she really screwed that up. I know her better than anyone, and my ex is really really going to regret her actions. Not only her actions, but actually breaking up with me, because no one will ever be as loving and devoted to her as I was. She's gonna learn this the hard way. Link to comment
Oasiswater Posted July 25, 2011 Author Share Posted July 25, 2011 I got a lot from that. I'm approaching the same mindset. Y'know what really makes me feel * * * * ty? The thoughts of her with another guy. She would always say to me how she could never be with anyone else (because she never was), and that she'd always be with me, and I'd say the same...and now...she really screwed that up. I know her better than anyone, and my ex is really really going to regret her actions. Not only her actions, but actually breaking up with me, because no one will ever be as loving and devoted to her as I was. She's gonna learn this the hard way. Pretty sure a lot of us here are in the same boat, bro. My ex kept trying to save face during the last breakup, with the whole "Im so confused, I don't know what's happening, why is this happening?" Truth be told she knows exactly what's happening.. and even if she were to come back around tomorrow, It'd be too late. If someone tells you that they'll never be with someone else, and you don't do anything wrong.. then they DO get with someone else? All that means is that they're a liar, and that you're better off without them. Take it at face value and move on. Link to comment
NeverGoingBack Posted July 25, 2011 Share Posted July 25, 2011 Yeah, I'm going to get laid fairly soon I'd say... It has to be done. Link to comment
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