blood_lust Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 every time i want to get Intimate with my boyfriend.. he turns me down... i dont know why.. i think he might not like me. he just says no or moves away from me or turns his head.. is there some thing wrong with me or him, help! Bloody- Link to comment
JuJu Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 What do you mean? Like when you try to kiss him or do...other stuff with him??? Maybe he's shy, or doesn't know what he's doing. Did you ask HIM why he turns you down??? Link to comment
blood_lust Posted August 5, 2004 Author Share Posted August 5, 2004 i mean like fooling around... no i didn't really ask him, but he does sorta look like he's shy when i talk about it.. Link to comment
Shizzle Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 lol luv, ask him, he is shy by the sound of it, if you want to do stuff with him, you have to make him feel confortable, thats it, theres the answer to most problems, if we (guys) are not happy or comfortable we wont do anything and try every excuse in the book to get out of it. what type of "stuff" or you fooling round about? Link to comment
Duderanomi Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 Well, if he's shy, all you gotta do is undo his button, zip down the zipper, pull down the pants and boxers and go at it. He'll be too busy enjoying it to be shy about it. Link to comment
June4life Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 Maybe he just isnt comfortable with this yet. I see that you're 14, and I'm not going to lecture you about it (since I"m only 3 years older than you!). I would say he's just not comfortable. Ask him what you asked us! Maybe when you're on the couch watching a movie or something, ask him, "I feel like everytime I try to kiss you or have fun you seem to turn me down." Make sure you say how you feel. Something like "I feel....." that way he knows you've been thinking about it, and you're concerned. Has he had any previous relationships? How old is he? If he is the same age as you, just remember girls mature a heck of a lot faster than boys do. Maybe he's just not ready? Talk! Link to comment
blood_lust Posted August 5, 2004 Author Share Posted August 5, 2004 yes he had a relation with someone before me.. he's my age.. maybe he's not ready, do you think me and him are kinda yong!? Link to comment
neva_black_n_white Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 I guess its your own MATURE decision to decide if your young or not, and its not something decided in a second, but still it could be that he may be self conscious or generally uncomfortabel with the idea of getting that intimate at the moment, people have different time periods at which they feel comfortable around people, i know i needed longer to be comfortable around my boyfriend than he did with me. Give him time, Kel Link to comment
Tinkerbell Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 In my opinion, at 14 you certainly should NOT be pulling down his pants and boxers and going at ANYTHING. Take your time, there's no hurry. As for making out, I don't really see anything wrong with that, so if he still continues to turn away why don't you just ask him what's up? Link to comment
Shizzle Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 i dont agree, tinkerbell, if your ready then really you should be aloud to do as you please, this girl sounds pretty mature, even is she didnt get my last post lol, just because she is 14 why should that stop her? sorry to ask but how old are you???? i mean teens now-a-days are SO much more sexualy (how do i put this) they know alot more about sex then what are parents did etc, so like i said IF she feels ready then she should do as she please's USE a condom tho please Link to comment
OverParanoid Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 I have to agree with tinkerbell. Your both young and maybe he is not ready to become intimate. I say take it slow, or talk to him about it. find out why he doesnt like to be intimate with you Link to comment
blood_lust Posted August 6, 2004 Author Share Posted August 6, 2004 i guess all you're posts are true i might be to yong.. but i should do what i want even though it might not be the best thing to do.. my boy friend has no prob with making out... but if he's not ready {i will ask him} then we could wait a while...but its kinda hard cuz he's just sooo frikin hot, he's my hotie and i want his bode! Link to comment
Broxtonbabe Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 I agree with Tinkerbell! I am much older than you, but I remember being your age. I was somewhat promiscuous. I still regeret that about myself at times. I'm not trying to "Preach" to you or be mothering. It comes from my heart and from my own experiences. Your boyfriend, whatever his problem is, is doing you a favor. You are 14. Time never rewinds. It only moves forward. Enjoy 14 right now. Don't rush growing up. Sexual relationships require mature decisions. I believe that at 14 you may not be making the best choice to rush into a sexual relationship. But, if you feel that you are ready, and want to be in a mature relationship try to connect with your boyfriend on other levels, first. Then you won't have to ask what's wrong with the sexual aspect of your realtionship, because you will know him well enough to know. Being sexual is only one part of what makes up a relationship. Maybe your boyfriend already knows this, and is not ready. Link to comment
Chrstina69 Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 mabye hes gay.. but like in a show.. he dusnt want any1 to know.. soo he got with a really pretty girl ssooo people thought he wasnt gay? hmm maybe.. hope not.. maybe hes juss not ready to go taht fast.. talk with him.. hope i helped Link to comment
HP-love craft Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 a movie is the best way to go. dont get invloved with sex yet, only hands, hand jobs and fingering, THATS IT nothing else or something just might happen. oh and ignore the smiley faces. lol Link to comment
blood_lust Posted August 7, 2004 Author Share Posted August 7, 2004 YEAH thats right!!! oh one thing my boyfriend is not gay no way no no no! thats not even a posobility! no might i say agian nononononononoo................................no Link to comment
Chrstina69 Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 yeah i wasnt saying he wass.. and im happy he isnt..soo its not a thing were hes not attracted to u.. soo thats good.. maybe he is shy.. alotta guys at my school act all like.. oh hell yeah id go down on her like there was no tomorrow.. but when it comes down to doing it.. they chicken out... sooo maybe hes shy.. juss talk to him about it Link to comment
Chrstina69 Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 oh and i noe.. that i woudlnt feel comfurtable if a guy tried to finger me.. maybe yeah he isnt confurtable with himself like im not with me.. i will be and ill let someone *maybe* but not today and not soon i dont think.. juss give it time.. how long have u guys been together anyways? and have u said i love u to each other yet? Link to comment
blood_lust Posted August 8, 2004 Author Share Posted August 8, 2004 we've been together for about a year... yeah we always say i love you to each other, and he should be confurtable with himself he's 93lbs anorexic/bulimic, he's frikin skinny!! Link to comment
sprkal Posted August 8, 2004 Share Posted August 8, 2004 um, if you're serious that he is anorexic or bulimic, then he is probably NOT comfortable with himself. Just because a person is skinny, doesnt mean they have a positive body image. Many males that I know consider skinnyness a problem and are always trying to 'bulk up' Link to comment
blood_lust Posted August 8, 2004 Author Share Posted August 8, 2004 he is anorexic AND bulimic, i guess but he does have some bulk..... Link to comment
lil_miss_blonde Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 hes probably just embarrassed, try talking to him about it, and asking him why he keeps turning you down. maybe he doesnt feel comfortable in your relationship yet and feels pressured. Link to comment
lilsht05 Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 I agree with those of you that think that they are too young, but honestly...it isn't really our place to say that they are too young and if they want to do it, they are going to no matter what anyone else says! About the rejection thing. My b/f and I used to do "it" all the time, but recently he was uninterested, it hurt my feelings, but when I talked to him about it he said that he would rather spend time with me rather than in me and he would rather talk to me that hear me scream. And there is nothing wrong with him, he isn't gay and he loves me very much, maybe your b/f would just rather spend time with YOU. But talk to him about it either way, you might find something out that you didn't know about him! -best of luck, and be smart about it if you do get there! Link to comment
hardcore Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 maybe its him im a guy and i have a real hard time getting off maybe he suffers from the same thing believe if this is it . believe me it's not you Link to comment
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