My close ex-gf and my current gf: confusion and stress.

[splendidlylost]

Before I get started, here's the background:

 

H: I've known her since my first year of college and we dated for 3 years. In that period of time, we were very much in love, and even today, we're still very close friends.

 

J: I started dating her about 6 months ago, and although she's a perfectly nice person, and we're going along smoothly, something just doesn't feel right about us being together.

 

So for about the last month or so, I've really considered leaving J. This's her first real relationship, and it definitely shows. I'm having to go through and teach her so many things about dating and it's becoming tiresome. She's also very conservative and it makes me feel like I have to run this relationship with one hand tied behind me. Tie this in with more time spent with H...I'm beginning to think I should be with H.

[brokenpogostick]

why did you break up with H in the first place?

[splendidlylost]

it was actually H that called it off. i went on a trip to new orleans with a bunch of kids from my college. while we were there, i made out with a girl in the group. it was the last straw for the relationship; we had already considered breaking up before.

[brokenpogostick]

oh i see. well in that case i'm not sure what to say cause if my guy made out with some other chick while we were together i'd say hell with it too & i wouldn't want him back.

 

but that's just me...

[TheDoctor]

I think you need to take some space and figure out what you want for yourself. You dont seem like a relationship kinda guy at this stage in your life from what you've stated.

[splendidlylost]

thats odd...i've had two very long relationships, one lasting 4 and this last one lasting 3 years. *shrugs*