when they dont text back

[user1988]

I asked my ex this once when we weren't on talking terms, he said he didn't want to encourage any "drama" and if ignoring my texts will set that boundary then that's what he's going to do.

[shessofly]

I don't keep texting people who don't respond. I get the point quite quickly.

[browneyedgirl36]

I don't keep texting people who don't respond. I get the point quite quickly.

 

Yep...silence often speaks volumes. If I call or text the same person more than once and get no response, I assume I'm being ignored and let it go, no matter how hard it is.

[Live-N-Learn]

Ned, be thankful she is not responding since you still have feelings for her. My ex dumped me and has pursued me for 11 months to be her best friend. It has been hell and full of a lot of drama. Never again.

[sweetmisery14]

What if you need a reply from the person so you can get full closure. I like to hear everything, know any answers to my questions before I can totally start accepting it. I hate when they ignore you when you're trying to figure it out for yourself so that you can move on. So selfish...

[Aether]

So far I have sent 1 email 2 weeks ago now, no response and 1 text saying simply "Please can we talk sometime?", that was yesterday, no response. I have been back in my own country for 3 weeks now, the first week I was back I sent him a text asking how he was and I got a reply straight away, I replied to that one and got a reply about an hour later. Since then I sent the non needy and desperate email (I was very careful to not come accross that way) putting things out there that I felt I needed to do, it was honest and to the point, but...it was about the one thing that I guess he isn't prepared to talk about right now, our relationship (I say our relationship since it's a unique siuation, no dumper or dumpee). He was happy to reply with how he was etc and small talk, which we've done online briefly over the past 3 weeks, but anything heavy he is avoiding. My guess is that he is processing things for himself, at least I hope that how it is, and isn't ready to discuss anything serious right now. I won't send anything else, I will respect his need to do his soul searching and just hope that it is indeed what he's doing...I have faith that he will respect me enough to do that...

[perio]

I sent my ex a seasonal best wishes email on thanksgiving. It was short and simple. I genuinely was simply wishing her the best. Her sister is dying and I hope she has one last good season with her. All I basically said was that my thoughts will be of the welling of her and her family. I got mo reply but it didn't need one really. It was two months after the breakup and I was not upset with no response. I did however thought that I would het ay least a "thanks, you too" back. I hope she is not in distress and is doing OK. My heart breaks for her and her sister. It's really a tough situation for her. I have since let my concern go for them because it was stressing me out worrying about her. I haven't don't the text bombing or any of that stuff so I'm sure it wasn't too big of a deal for her. I think she just wants to be focused on her family and not deal with any emotions that may come with engaging with me in any way. I have moved on now so I didn't tale as a bad thing. My love is big and goes beyond the romantic. I hope she finds peace and happiness.