broke NC after a week, drove me mad

[sunnyv]

Nc works to heal you and for them if they have any true feelings to bring them to the surface. How you best do nc i s one day at a time then one week at a time then try to shoot for 3 weeks. At around this time or 30 days chances are your ex will contact you then you can decide what to do. Go nc its the best advice you will ever get. Oh and don't delete her number just change her name on the number to something like mean girl or something that will make you laugh and empower you.

[ned2010]

The best way to bring hidden feelings to the surface is through NC....or so I have read.

 

 

yeah i heard that also, but when you think about it... dont make much sense as it feels wrong, but thats how odd life is

[byates5637]

I would definitely delete her number from your phone. Write down her number on a piece of paper and tuck it away in a drawer in your room just in case you ever really need it. But you don't want to have easy access to it.

[ned2010]

i really feel terrible about this

[lia86]

Delete it!!! Like you don't have it memorized anyway.

 

Really though. You have to do things in your own time. Nobody could've made me delete his # before I was ready.

 

Heartbreak sucks every time doesn't it? Turns your world upside-down. And I agree with you, it gets harder each time. I think that is a good sign. Imagine if they started getting easier, it would be like we weren't loving as deep or something...

 

I am so sorry ned. I feel your pain really bad. I am 2.5 months NC and it does get easier, I promise.

[Ms Darcy]

i know what your saying, but it all feels more complicated then that, i feel she more or less chosen to wait for this guy then be with me, which makes me very angry i admit because its very much saying i aint good enough, but i feel there could be hidden feelings and i have been in that position before where i liked someone but i wouldnt admit it to myself so i got bitter and angry and blamed that person for it, which is oddly similar to what she is doing

 

You need to accept that she broke up with you and is being intimate with someone else. That's all the feeling you need to know. If she changes her mind, she knows how to find you.

[ned2010]

in all honesty there is a 50% chance they are together, last i heard she couldnt see him because of distance, so chances are she just saying id rather wait for him then see you :s

[Ms Darcy]

If she's broken up with you, then she doesn't want to be with you. If she's not seeing this guy, it's another guy she's thinking of. That's my experience.

[ned2010]

yep thats proberly about right

 

over a week ago, she told me to go die, and said i should go kill myself (harsh), and she said she hates me, and i said what do you hate me for? you have no reason to hate me, she said i do hate you go away go away!!, and she really had no reason to hate me at all, she just ignored me from then on for days like hoping id go away, so i gave up and over a week later i felt pressure and text her which is the original post in this thread, and she replied pretty quick but was distant and cold

 

so chances are she doing this for a guy, ouch!

[LanceVanceDance]

over a week ago, she told me to go die, and said i should go kill myself

 

Come on man, have some dignity.

 

If anybody said that to me I'd never talk to them again.

[ned2010]

i wouldnt talk to them again if i felt they really meant it

[LanceVanceDance]

Whether they meant it or not... You don't say that to someone. You should not talk to her again just because she said it and maybe next time she'll think twice before opening her mouth.

[ned2010]

nah she wont think twice, she is that sorta person, but she does feel bad after but seems to stubborn to say anything

[LanceVanceDance]

You're reading it wrong. Let her learn her lesson. Stop contacting her.

 

If someone says such things to you, whether they mean it or not, you need to cut them off.