Has it gone to far

[dazedandconfusedtoo]

Hi - hope you can help. My girlfriend and I split about 6 months ago but have continued to live together and a month ago she moved into the spare room while she found a place to rent with our dog I came home found her talking to her new boyfriend(she said she has only been talking and texting for 3 weeks or so) and not meet him since their first encounter - no sex and I do sort of believe her) on the mobile phone. She is an air stewardess she is flirty but not easy. Anyway I lost it and told her she had to go, she has moved accross the street into friends until her place is available . I changed the locks on the doors and drank my self stupid . I've told her once her stuff is out and I've paid her off that I never want to see her again she wants to remain friends but I know I'll find it unbearable as I really do love her. I know I haven't shown it over the years we always seem to be at loggerheads. I'm not happy about her job I work regular hours and she is away most weekends or part off and gets up at 4:30am so we never get to do many things together very often. She is turning 30 in a few months and I am 36 I'm not sure if its a mini mid life crises but she was the girl it took the longest to get 6 months of wooing with flowers and seeing her everyday in the coffee shop etc She is stunningly beautiful and gets load of guys chatting her up which she admits she loves. We do have quite different outlooks on life she is happy to potter in the garden, cook, DIY while I've been more get a better job earn more money let's try and be financially independent which she has never been interested in. My circle of friends has been small and so has hers until recently, we have lived in different countries, together and before we met, she is Swedish(perfect English) and I'm UK/NZ. Our sex lives have been average to normal she never wants it and I want it all the time and she said she only had sex to please me and it never did because she never enjoyed. We had been engaged for 6 years but only got round to deciding the place and guest list and it never got further than that. Anyway after all this I do love her and would like to make her happy and have kids etc but she says we're just poles apart may be she is right but I would like the chance again. Any help on this is appreciated.

[kissonthelips]

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't enjoy having sex with you? Sounds like a lifetime of pain to me. Also, don't expect her to change jobs for you, to ease your insecurities. She's been stright forward about enjoying the attention and all, so... It unfortunately sounds like you have to let go. Maybe she'll come back. Just let her think about it. There's no point in starting up with someone again if it's half-assed, really.... good luck

[sisterlynch]

This relationship seems to have run its course. Find someone who loves you equally and is more interested in pleasing you. Beauty is only skin deep.

[Scout]

Frankly, you two don't seem well-matched, at least not any more. This might be a good thing for her and yourself. I would really concentrate on seeing where you can improve yourself and do some things you want to do, instead of dwelling too much on getting back together.

 

Pretty blunt, I know...but that was my immediate impression after reading your post. Especially agree with the poster who asks you why in the world would you want to be with someone who NEVER enjoys sex with you??