Need help with what to do / how to approach (older male / widow)

[itsthethoughtthatcounts]

I met this guy he is a 50 year old widow with a teenage son. I am 20 years his junior.

 

We are attracted to each other and we flirt from time to time.

 

We started out with innocent drinks and now drinks have turned to 'a date' (in his words). I dont quite know what he wants as he said early on he didnt know if relationships are for him and what he wants, so i took this to mean he was interested in some no strings attached fun only. For me personally no strings attached fun is ok with me.

 

If something eventuates out of this i am not sure how to handle this relationship, he would be the oldest person ive been with (and that's ok with me) but i also have never been with anyone who is a widow with a 'child', so how should i approach that?

[lavenderdove]

Just talk to him about it. Tell him what you would like, and see what he says. This is about communication and has nothing to do with age. He's a person, just like you and not some strange alien species and don't treat him like such.

 

He may have some age related issues (like needing Viagra), but if he is healthy, he may not. I've dated a man who was 4 years younger than me who was far less sexual than a man I dated who was 15 years older than me, so you have to judge him as an individual, not as an 'old dude'.