person44 Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 Thank you for reading. I need help. I cant Masturbate. I am in my early 20's and I am a girl. I try to pleasure myself, but nothing works. While i try to fantasize about something (ANYTHING) it doesn't turn me on. I never really understood the concept of love and sex and I realize that they say most girls get turned on by the concept of romance. (This problem does not stem from the lack of emotional relationships with other men) What can I do? Please give me some advice. Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carus Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 I'll be right over!! ....lol jking* Has this stemmed from going through a recent breakup....? If so, maybe you need to just put it aside for a while and let the fires build... My ex went straight into another relationship which made me feel like I had to do the same thing.... Needless to say....it didnt work All The Best K2* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aireyc Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 Why do you feel a need to? Maybe I'm just stupid, but I don't see why you want to do something just for the sake of doing it. Usually there's a reason, such as stress, and sexual gratification is a person's way of relieving the problem. If I were you, I'd be happy to be free from something many others become addicted to, only to their own detriment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piccola Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 have you tried using a shower head or situating yourself so the tap in the bath lands in the right place? that's the best way to do it the first time, have it gentle and see what happens! how about thinking about clothes? or something you find visually appealing like that? sometimes i think about stuff like that, that i don't find sexual to just entertain my mind, i often don't find pleasure and the desire for it connected to sexual thought at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScorpiGal83 Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 link removed this site is really good for tips and things like that... I used it to help teach my bf how give head, too... it's really useful for female pleasuring type stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juxtapoz Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 you have to be patient and keep trying. the first time i successfully masterbated, it took at least an hour to orgasm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Speranza Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 Can I just say (I know this is slightly unusual but I also know it isn't just me) that I can't masturbate whilst fantasising. It just doesn't work for me. Visually, I mean. In fact when I sleep with a guy it wouldn't occur to me to imagine he was someone else, either. I think I'm just quite cerebral - and that can be a hurdle cos good feelings are all about hushing your brain and not thinking about what is and isn't working. If you are also that type, erotic fiction might do it for you... but it's really just a case of relaxing and feeling the feelings... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juxtapoz Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 yeah i find it difficult to fantasize and twirk at the same time. i prefer to only concentrate on one thing rather than two Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 I could not orgasm from pure imagination either for a long time. Watching porn definitely helped though. Try to just relax and not put any pressure on yourself. Make sure you're content, comfortable and that you'll have no interruptions. Explore your body and focus on what feels the best. It will happen, good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sigmond freud Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 LOL Im sorry but ..I think that would make a great thread..."terms of masterbation"...I have never heard it called "twirk" before...thanks for the smile... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greywolf Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 It takes practice. Have you experienced an orgasm before? A lot of girls also feel self-conscious about it, and they can't orgasm because of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juxtapoz Posted May 24, 2010 Share Posted May 24, 2010 LOL Im sorry but ..I think that would make a great thread..."terms of masterbation"...I have never heard it called "twirk" before...thanks for the smile... HA! Yeah, it´s called TWIRKIN THAT BEAN. We used to make up country songs with that line. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arise_shine Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Well, I'm a guy, but I have similar issues sometimes. For me, it mostly has to do with antidepressant medication, and the chunk they take out of my sexual functioning. I have a pretty blunted sex drive and sexual response. Are you on antidepressants? Or any other meds that may have sexual side effects? Do you get "turned on" at all? What kinds of things "do it" for you? Try to use those kinds of thoughts to get yourself turned on. I've found that if I'm not already "in the mood," just touching myself often isn't enough. Have you been sexual with a partner before? Did you get aroused? Did you orgasm? You might want to think about those things while you're going for it. And like others said, be relaxed, comfortable, etc. Don't force it just for the sake of doing it. Ultimately it may be a medical and/or psychological problem. Seeing a doctor and/or counselor (respectively) would help in those cases. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perfect Dark Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 One word. Vibrator. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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