Pompea Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 I happen to be one of those people that gladly does favors for people not really expecting anything in return. I do favors without being asked because it makes me happy to see other people happy. I go out of my way sometimes to make my guy happy and this is okay because it really makes me smile to see him smile. Thats just how I am. For the most part, I have not had this courtesy returned to me. Which is fine, I don't expect it from most people. But in the same hand, I have consistently been made to feel that asking for favors from others is placing a burden on them. Consequently, I am afraid to ask favors from people unless I really really need help with something. And I also have trouble accepting favors offered from others unless offered more than once (because I often feel that the first time is made only to be polite). So basically, I usually feel left by myself and therefore am seeking the quality in a guy that makes him want to do things for me just to see me happy in the same way that I would do things for him. The guy I am sort of dating now very rarely does anything just for me. There have been times where I have even suggested that he could do something for me and he would go "yyyyeaahno." because it was not something he particularly wanted to do, but I am afraid to ask a second time because it may make him feel pressured into doing it and I don't want that. I'm really just venting because I feel alone and like no one really cares enough about me to see me happy. I know how very selfish that sounds, but after such a long time doing things for other people and for my guy I am feeling burnt out and over-used. I know that people cannot read my mind and that there are some things I will always have to ask for. I'm talking about little things, like lending or giving an item, buying a gift, making a gift, cooking something, the same little things I do for other people. Too much to hope for? Link to comment
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