apg820 Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Ok I never thought this would happen. I am 21 years old, just graduated from college. This past semester I had to do 45 volunteer hours for school, and the Humane Society was recommended for me, which is good because I love animals and wanted to get into this anyway. I met a guy there who works with the dogs, and I knew pretty early on that he was 46 years old. Since I was coming up there twice a week we would talk here and there. Though he seemed friendly, I am shy. Towards the end of the semester we began to talk more, and I realized it's actually pretty easy to keep a conversation going between us, so I relaxed and we got to know each other better. I was happy to make a new friend, the age didn't bother me at this point. Nothing wrong with having friends of all ages. Since graduation I decided to still go and volunteer once a week. I grew attached to the place and wanted to see the animals I had come to know, and it was encouraging to have a friend there. Well now that I don't "have" to be there I have more down times to just talk when I'm done with the animals without it looking like I'm trying to get hours in by just hanging out. I am usually with the animals for about 2-3 hours and we talk about things here and there when we get the chance. But now that I don't "have" to be there he talks to me when I'm done, and I end up staying an extra 45-60 minutes until it's closing time. I was surprised how much we have to talk about. I keep learning we share so many of the same beliefs and interests even though he is older. He's not what I expected at all. So after talking to him more I am realizing that I am attracted to him. He just keeps surprising me. He has kind of a rugged appearance but he's so intelligent, reads the same books, and feels the same way about animals as I do. It doesn't help that he looks 30! And what made the attraction stronger is noticing that he seems to like me too. He just recently asked for my number even though he doesn't own a phone at the moment. He just said he would find one. lol And he mentioned what my dad would think if he came around my house. I think if he wanted to hang out as friends only he wouldn't be thinking about meeting my dad right now. Trouble is I think we should stay friends. I want a serious relationship leading to marriage and kids, and I don't see a relationship working out with someone about the same age as my father. Actually he reminds me of my father in a lot of ways. And this guy may just be looking to fool around, who knows. He's unmarried, no kids, seems to just want to have fun and do his own thing. How do you tone down the attraction when you're not even wanting anything to actually develop from it? I really want to be friends with this guy, would hate to miss out on a good friendship just because of a little crush that doesn't mean anything.. Link to comment
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