rebeccafisher2 Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 My ex and I were together for 4.5 years and split up 10 weeks ago. We have an 18 month old baby boy together. At first he was OK to see him once a week for one hour. After a month or so of this we had a fight and he disappeared and didnt contact me at all for about a month. A few days ago he contacts me to see his son and I agreed. We live an hour away from each other now, and we met halfway. I thought he would just be content to see him as its been so long, but although he was happy to see him and play with him, he also discussed with me that next time he wants to have him alone at his house for a few days. I said no, definitely not for the moment. We left it like that. Am I wrong? Should I let him have him for a few days alone every other weekend? I feel like after everything he put me through during our split (he tried to have my son legally taken away from me, he was verbally abusive, he walked away for a month without a word) I think its nice of me to give him an hour or so every weekend but with my presence. By the way I do not have to do this, we were not married and I have full parental rights, so he does not have any rights so far unless he takes this to court. I dont want to be a ex wife type person. I want to be fair. At the same time I am hesitant of him having my son for days alone, I just feel its too soon since from when he treated us so badly. I appreciate any advice. By the way, he is not that responsable (he didnt take care of our son hardly at all when we lived together, I did mostly everything which is one of the reasons I split with him) and by him taking him, he means taking him to his mothers where she takes care of him and he comes and goes from his mums house during that time. I dont get on at all well with his mum, she has called me an incapable mother, she doesnt think very highly of me, she is manipulative. She really doesnt have ANY visitation rights but is obviously telling my ex she wants to see her grandson ASAP in her environment. I offered to my ex that she can also come with him on the weekend when we meet halfway in order to see her son. I really dont want them to go to court over this. I want to be fair but feel its too soon for me to give them so much visitation. Thanks for reading, and any advice on this really appreciated. Link to comment
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