Is going out for a drink leading someone on? I just want more friends.

[vaporleak]

Scenario is... boy I work with, only 21, asks me if I want to go for a drink after work. I joke and say, "as long as you don't tell everyone we slept together..." hahaha, we laugh, "this is not a date." He agrees and says he would never and no it's not a date. I'm wired and have no plans so we meet up somewhere. Well... he ends up paying for my drink because I have no cash on me. Then we get to our cars and he says he deserves a hug for paying for me... I playfully hug him. Then he texts me while I'm driving home and tells me to text him to let him know I made it home safe. HOW DID THIS GO SO WRONG?! I'm dating someone else I am very happy with. In fact, I literally just want more friends, and this guy and I have a lot of similar interests. So, did I lead him on? I want to hang with him, he's so fun and smart, but I don't want him as a bf. Is that so wrong?

[greywolf]

I don't think you lead him on, and at this point I think it's too soon to assume that he wants more than friendship just because of his text. Some people are just like that. Whenever I visit my cousin, she asks me to text her when I get home.

[Sparkly Eyes]

no you didn't. You told him it is not a date, if he thinks it is, that is his problem.

[gissellegee]

texting to see if you're home ok doesn't mean he sees you more than a friend. It's a responsible gesture of a friend tht has been out drinking with you. if you're looking for a good friend to hang out with, surely you have found one.

[d24]

maybe try finding some female friends?

then again, chances are they'd be lesbians with you luck lol ......