How Long is too long?..

[almostgolden]

Hey Everyone, I was just wondering on how long is too long before hearing from a good/close friend? Like if you haven't heard from them in a while. I still haven't heard from a friend & its been almost a month. I mean I called him a couple weeks ago .I even emailed him that same week that I called & ask how him & his gf are doing & if it was cool if we can still be friends but & I haven't heard anything back or seen him online in weeks.

 

I'm starting to really worry now because i dont know if hes just really busy or if maybe for right now he is putting our friendship on hold for whatever reason. I'm confuse & dont know how to or what to think.

 

For now I was going to step back a bit & let him contact me but his birthday is coming up soon like in a couple weeks & i wanted to email him & wish him a Happy Birthday but now i think what if he doesn't really check his emails anymore. Would it be a good idea to do both maybe send a card & then email him on his b-day?

 

When should i worry & think the friendship is over, after a certain time from not hearing from him? I thought if i email him on his b-day & still heard nothing that I would definitly know he doesnt want to be my friend anymore. Please note that we didnt fight or anything, I just feel that hes withdrawling from the friendship & i am confuse on why

Thanks,

almostgolden

[almostgolden]

and Yes, hes an online buddy(never met in person) but I known him for almost 3 years & we were so close.

[aireyc]

Heya,

 

I've known people in the past who have gone away for 1/2 year or so, but I would email him again. If you were REAL close and it all just ended, I doubt he doesn't want to be your friend any more. There are thousands of reasons he may not be responding; I doubt dropping the friendship is one of them. I say send an email/card and see what happens. I don't know how much you can worry though since there's no good way to tell what's going on.

 

- Chris

[DealingWithIt]

i say don't contact him at all. he obviously has a life outside the computer - having a gf and all. if you had a bf, wouldn't you wanna spend all your free time with them instead of being glued to the computer. im sorry if im being harsh but its true.

[almostgolden]

Hey aireyc,

 

Yes, we were close as close as an interent friend can be anyways. I mean we sent lots of emails & even called each other too. I sent him stuff in the mail & always tried to be a real good friend to him..

So yeah i was going to try not to worry so much cos like i said we didnt fight or anything, it just feels like our friendship is slowly dieing. We stayed close for this long , I would hope he wouldnt want to just end it.

[almostgolden]

i say don't contact him at all. he obviously has a life outside the computer - having a gf and all. if you had a bf, wouldn't you wanna spend all your free time with them instead of being glued to the computer. im sorry if im being harsh but its true.

i do have a bf & a life outside the computer as well but that doesn't mean that i would wanna forget my friends or even people online who are important to me.

[BreArna]

Im not sure where you are ( as in country) but where i am ( australia) if i send a email through my isp then i can tick a little box that says 'return receipt'.. so if he does open the email its sends one back saying he has opened it.. you should look into that if u wanna see if he is checking his emails or not..

[QTpie87]

well,

maybe they are just buisy? um if you really wanna keep in contact then when you finally do get to talk to them then tell them. i hope you get to talk to them soon. but i don't think it has been too long for no hope, i have gone for like 5 months without talking to some of me best friends because of family stuff, moving, and just everything and we are still good buddies. i think your gonna be good. take care!

love QTpie87

[almostgolden]

What should I do for his birthday just send an email or do both? send a card & email?

 

Thanks,