Should I just send her a message on facebook?

[i miss her 2]

Ok, so I really like this girl who is a local singer here where I live. I have never met her personally but we have talked on myspace once and then recently she commented on my facebook and I did the same to hers. She has TONS of friends on there and is a very busy girl so I was really flattered when I saw her noticing me like that.

 

Now, it isn't hard for me to get girls because I have been told I am extremely good looking and very down to earth, etc. My friends told me they could definitely picture me with this girl.

 

So last week I saw she was going to a concert Friday. I sent her a message and asked if she was going, she said she was, and then asked if I was too. I said yeah and that I would see her there. Keep in mind we have not been sending messages just commenting back and forth on each others page. We talked on myspace once...had a small converstaion about music, web design, etc.

 

So I went by myself to the show and I saw her there. First time I had ever seen her in person. I dont know if she noticed me but she was dancing with another guy and a girl. It was very dark, loud, etc. I danced right next to her for a while but I didn't have the nerve to just cut in or introduce myself right there. I thought it would be kind of weird.

 

I REALLY like this girl and want to get to know her because A: I find her very attractive and B we have ALOT in common, but I dont think she knows that yet.

 

So what do I do? I was thinking about sending her a message tonight that read along the lines of what did you think of the show? I got there about 11:30 or so after hitting up a couple other places. I saw you there dancin with some guy and girl a little later on. I guess I was too polite to cut in and introduce myself. By the way, you looked absolutely gorgeous. “

 

Do you think it would be ok to send her this? I know where she is gonna be tonight because of her status and I could try to see her there but I dont wanna seem like I am stalking her...plus I hate footballl.

[jadenrain]

the message sounds like a great idea the showing up to a place that she is going would come off as stalkerish

[skysthelimit]

You should really try to be yourself so don't go to the football game or whatever it is if you don't really like it...plus it is stalkerish. The message sounds good and to the point so I think you should go with that! Good luck

[i miss her 2]

I sent her the message and she responded with, "Aw thanks. I had a good time =)"

 

My friends on the don juan forum have brainswashed me and told me that this was a bad move.

 

I then sent her another message: "So how long have you been a vegetarian? I just recently started experimenting with vegetarian food and have noticed a great difference in how I feel." SHe hasn't responded yet...but I know she has been online. Damn.

[Aldo25]

Like you said, she has tons of Facebook friends. I wouldn't read too much into it if she hasn't responded yet.

[i miss her 2]

Should I try to contact her again eventually? I really like this girl and I think she would like me if she got to know me.

[Shudder]

Should I try to contact her again eventually? I really like this girl and I think she would like me if she got to know me.

 

you sent her a message so wait for a response. she may have a lot of spam in her inbox. but also if she doesnt reply you in good timing, its safe to assume she isn't as interested as you

[bruinsy81]

Do you realize how it sounds when you describe yourself as ''extremely good looking'' whether or not it is other people saying it...There seems to be a genuine lack of modesty on this forum at times.

[i miss her 2]

you sent her a message so wait for a response. she may have a lot of spam in her inbox. but also if she doesnt reply you in good timing, its safe to assume she isn't as interested as you

 

 

 

I know, but alot of girls don't like to be hit on via facebook which is why I have to figure out a different plan lol. She doesnt really even know me so how could she know if she was interested or not.

 

However, I do know this girl doesn't "count" on alot of people and "fears intimacy." She has probably been burned before but I'm not like other guys and I just want her to know that.

[i miss her 2]

My friends wife told me earlier tonight that maybe I should just focus on other things for a few weeks and then maybe message this girl and just be real straight forward. Tell her something like, "Hey I find you very interesting and I think we have alot in common. Would you be interested in having coffee/lunch with me sometime?" Anyone think this might be an ok idea?