is it wrong?

[Scare]

Okay so heres my story. I'm with my girlfriend for quite a while now, and we're both completely happy with eachother. We see eachother being part of eachothers lives for a long long time.

 

well.. she's gone on a vacation for the next couple days.. and i miss her terribly. I had the urge to enjoy myself while watching some porn, hoping to get my mind off of things. Is this wrong? I haven't.. but i'm just wondering. Thanks

[Theblueman123]

It's only wrong if you feel that it would be wrong.

[Scare]

I'm feeling that it is. thanks blueman

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Porn is not cheating...it is simply using visual aids to masturbate. Many women get upset when their partner views porn and see it as cheating..but as long as it is just images of women you have no interaction with then it is not cheating...it is no different than looking at Playboy and masturbating or women who read romance novels with graphic sex descriptions and get horny.

[alli]

You could ask your gf what she thinks of it. Personally I don't care if my bf watches it, as long as it's not violent & involves people 18 or older.

[KevinR]

I've never thought porn was harmful to any of my relationships. It's one of those things I just never bring up (but I don't deny it if I'm asked, of course.)

[Scare]

Thanks for the replies guys, it all makes sense. I feel more comfortable now thanks!

[Kantriakhor]

Porn is not cheating...it is simply using visual aids to masturbate. Many women get upset when their partner views porn and see it as cheating..but as long as it is just images of women you have no interaction with then it is not cheating...it is no different than looking at Playboy and masturbating or women who read romance novels with graphic sex descriptions and get horny.

 

The boundaries of what is and what is not cheating is best decided by those in the relationship.

 

Now one way of looking at cheating is that there needs to be consensual contact between two people.

 

Another way is some see using the inspiration of someone else to sexually gratify yourself as cheating.

 

Communication is the key.

[Organs]

It's only wrong if you want to be a slave to hollow societal rules that make no sense. Even if she's in town, you should be able to look at porn. I'm in my second relationship, and neither my current girlfriend nor my previous one minded that I looked at porn. The last one laughed hysterically when her friends said they wouldn't date a guy who looks at porn.

 

Beat off and get on with your day. It's not like you're cheating on her.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

The boundaries of what is and what is not cheating is best decided by those in the relationship.

 

Now one way of looking at cheating is that there needs to be consensual contact between two people.

 

Another way is some see using the inspiration of someone else to sexually gratify yourself as cheating.

 

Communication is the key.

 

Masturbation is a very private thing and there should not have to be a consultation with the partner to see if it is okay if the guy can masturbate to a movie depicting complete strangers having sex.

[Kantriakhor]

Masturbation is a very private thing and there should not have to be a consultation with the partner to see if it is okay if the guy can masturbate to a movie depicting complete strangers having sex.

 

You'll notice I didn't say masturbation in general; but with someone else serving as the inspiration for the lust. This can include lap dances by strippers, strip clubs, and porn. So your reply has nothing to do with my post in that vein.

 

Some people don't like porn because of insecurities, and some believe it to be akin to cheating, though not s severe as physically finding someone else.

 

The entire "keeping it hush hush" is childish. I prefer to actually be mature.

 

If the relationship is serious and if you believe this may be a problem, then talk about it and you'll get one of three results:

 

1 - She's OK with it. Good for you.

2 - She's not OK with it but can compromise, this is important especially if you intend on living with them.

3 - She's not OK with it and won't budge. Perhaps finding a new partner is in order, thus saving you future fighting.